Throughout my school life, I have never really been serious studying till when I am in my college life.
I still remember when I had 5A's for my std 5 exam, my dad was so happy that he is so proud to tell every customer who buy things from the shop. But too bad that I was too small then to understand why dad is so proud of me.
Then when I was in Form 3, I did quite well with my SRP by obtaining 4A's and able to go into Science1 stream. By this time dad isn't too proud of me.
When I was in Form 5, my SPM result is just average but I still manage to obtain aggregate 19 (Grade 1). By this time again dad just said I should have done better. Due to my poor performance in Science subjects, I was enrolled into Arts stream when I was in Form 6.
Parents been very supportive of me when it comes to studies. As long as I am willing to study, they are always willing to fork out the money to support me.
Through dad's friends recommendation, I was encouraged to do my A level at the Goon's institute rather than to study Form 6. So, I went to Petaling Jaya to do my A level.
Unfortunately at the Goon institute, the lecturers keep on changing. Feeling frustrated, I told my parents about it. They asked me if I wanted to come back to study Form 6. So, I went back again to study Form 6.
When studying Form 6, I was struggling with accounts. All the while I have been very poor with this subject. Worst is that the teacher who taught this subject is a real boring person. So, I totally let go this subject.
All the while during my secondary school days, I used to burn midnite oil when exam is approaching. I still remember that I used only 7 weeks to prepare for my SRP. As for SPM, I used 2 months to prepare for it.
When I said I prepare for the examination, I am very serious about it. I do not watch any TV programs at all nor do I go out to enjoy myself. I totally immerse myself in studying except for food, bath or going to the toilet.
But when I was in my Upper 6, even though I know I must use at least 3 months to prepare for the examination, I do not know why I always feel panic and do not know what to do. I just can't concentrate on my examination. Finally, I do not do well in my STPM.
Parents are very very disappointed with my STPM result. I was too shameful to produce my result to them. The moment I gave the result slip to my parents, I can see how disappointed in their face. I felt so bad that I do not know how to face them.
However, parents been supportive all the while. Through newspaper advertisement, I come across a new college for the hotel management course. I enrolled to the 4 year degree hotel management course.
When studying for the hotel course, I was always determined and keep on telling myself I should not disappoint my parents just like the STPM. So, I really keep track of all my subjects, doing all my assignments and update information for the course.
Whenever there is an examination, I will always try my very best to have the best result in any subjects. During any examinations, it is always either Stephanie or myself will have the best result.
And finally when it comes to the real final exam, I was fully prepared for it. I did very well for the exam with an honorable degree for it.
When the day comes on the announcement of the result, I was announced the best student. I was so happy that tears automatically flow down. I have never been such happy before that tears flow from my eyes. This is the very first time. And its very difficult to explain the happiness that I had. I keep on telling myself its really worth the effort throughout my 3 years for the course.
When studying for the hotel management course, one of my lecturer introduced to me the mind mapping technique by Lawrence Walter. I was amazed by the technique that I can study easily and remember facts easily as well.
So, as for examination, it is very important that we use the right technique to study. The best book for remembering facts and figures is by Tony Buzan. In fact, he is the creator of the mind mapping. He intoduces the usage of the left and right brain. With his technique, one can study easily.
During the SARS period where I was unemployed for nearly 3 months. This is the time I was introduced by my former Sunshine travel agent boss to take up the train the trainer course for Tony Buzan's memory course.
The Tony Buzan's memory course has the mind mapping, photographic memory, face and names memory, number memory and also how to remember poker cards.
By studying this course, it will definately help oneself in studies.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Friday, October 10, 2008
Treasure Life...
While I was taking a group of China tourists in Genting Highlands on the 1st October 2008, I met up with Sharon Chua. She told me that Alvin Ng's eldest son met with accident and was in coma.
The moment I heard about it, my body trembles. Why such a bad thing happen to Alvin's son?
I have a family and of course I understand well how Alvin's feeling is. I still remember after we celebrated Christmas 2007, and while ordering for supper, suddenly I recieved a phone call from my mom-in-law. She told us that Jia Chen is having a very high fever and saying that the floor can turn around.
Upon hearing this, we immediately rush back home. While driving back home, Joanne and I did not even speak a word. I am dead worried about Jia Chen because I am very sure it must be a real serious condition, or else my mom-in-law won't call us. I believe Joanne is in the same situation as I am really worry and praying for the safety of Jia Chen.
Upon reaching home, we immediately brought Jia Chen to visit the Pantai specialist centre. And its a real luck that Jia Chen is all right.
So, as a dad I can really feel and understand how Alvin gone through.
Very unfortunately, a week past and the worst news came that Alvin's son past away.
We went for his funeral from the first day. While we were there, I saw Alvin was crying. I immediately feel the trauma Alvin gone through. Its a very rare situation that you will be able to see a man guy like Alvin to cry openly. This really show how sad Alvin is.
We even went for the sent off to the colabarium and the next day we went for the ashes collection to be sent off to the Nilai memorial. Its a real bad situation to see every one in a sombre mood and tears keep on flowing.
At this time, I told Joanne that Alvin will know who his real friend is. True enough that those friends who have been helping around during the funeral till the very last day is true friend indeed.
Alvin's son dead because of motorbike accident at the age of 18.
I still remember very clearly when I was a teenager I was full of bravery and do not know what danger means.
There was once when I was only 15, and I did not even have the motor license, I borrowed 2nd uncle's motor to roam around. I don't really know the mechanical operation of the motor. I accidently pulled the oil too much and stepped on gear one. The motorbike immediately pick up and the front of motorbike flew up. Everyone there was screaming. Luckily I had a good control of the motorbike and nothing happen.
The second incident which I remember very clearly is that when I newly got the license and the new motorbike which was bought by dad. It was at night and I was on my way going back from town to home in Melaka. I was speeding. I want to overtake one of the cars. (At that time the Jalan Mata Kuching is not a highway) So, I just overtake but without changing the gear. (I do not really know that I must change the gear to a lower gear so that the motorbike will pick up better and faster). So, on the opposite side there is a car coming. Luckily that the car slowed down to let me undertake it and nothing happen. It is a real missed for me and that is why till this day I can remember it very clearly.
After I had my motorbike, I used to lie to parents that I will take a bus to KL. Out of bravery and adventurous, I rode the motorbike to KL instead. The reason why I rode to KL is because I love to be adventurous and also to learn the routes in KL.
There was once, while riding my motorbike to KL, suddenly the front tyre puntured. I was speeding at that time. I immediately slowed down and had a hard time controlling my motorbike. My motorbike was swerving like a snake. I was so lucky that I am able to control of the motorbike and there was no vehicle at that time. Or else, I will be in a very bad situation.
Due to this incident, from that day onwards, I dare not to ride motorbike to KL anymore.
So, from here, we should treasure our life greatly. Its during the teenage life that we have more bravery and adventurous than anyone. But please, remember, every move that you take always consider the loved ones around you will be worrying about you.
Don't let your loved ones grieved for you like Alvin's case. Please treasure life...
The moment I heard about it, my body trembles. Why such a bad thing happen to Alvin's son?
I have a family and of course I understand well how Alvin's feeling is. I still remember after we celebrated Christmas 2007, and while ordering for supper, suddenly I recieved a phone call from my mom-in-law. She told us that Jia Chen is having a very high fever and saying that the floor can turn around.
Upon hearing this, we immediately rush back home. While driving back home, Joanne and I did not even speak a word. I am dead worried about Jia Chen because I am very sure it must be a real serious condition, or else my mom-in-law won't call us. I believe Joanne is in the same situation as I am really worry and praying for the safety of Jia Chen.
Upon reaching home, we immediately brought Jia Chen to visit the Pantai specialist centre. And its a real luck that Jia Chen is all right.
So, as a dad I can really feel and understand how Alvin gone through.
Very unfortunately, a week past and the worst news came that Alvin's son past away.
We went for his funeral from the first day. While we were there, I saw Alvin was crying. I immediately feel the trauma Alvin gone through. Its a very rare situation that you will be able to see a man guy like Alvin to cry openly. This really show how sad Alvin is.
We even went for the sent off to the colabarium and the next day we went for the ashes collection to be sent off to the Nilai memorial. Its a real bad situation to see every one in a sombre mood and tears keep on flowing.
At this time, I told Joanne that Alvin will know who his real friend is. True enough that those friends who have been helping around during the funeral till the very last day is true friend indeed.
Alvin's son dead because of motorbike accident at the age of 18.
I still remember very clearly when I was a teenager I was full of bravery and do not know what danger means.
There was once when I was only 15, and I did not even have the motor license, I borrowed 2nd uncle's motor to roam around. I don't really know the mechanical operation of the motor. I accidently pulled the oil too much and stepped on gear one. The motorbike immediately pick up and the front of motorbike flew up. Everyone there was screaming. Luckily I had a good control of the motorbike and nothing happen.
The second incident which I remember very clearly is that when I newly got the license and the new motorbike which was bought by dad. It was at night and I was on my way going back from town to home in Melaka. I was speeding. I want to overtake one of the cars. (At that time the Jalan Mata Kuching is not a highway) So, I just overtake but without changing the gear. (I do not really know that I must change the gear to a lower gear so that the motorbike will pick up better and faster). So, on the opposite side there is a car coming. Luckily that the car slowed down to let me undertake it and nothing happen. It is a real missed for me and that is why till this day I can remember it very clearly.
After I had my motorbike, I used to lie to parents that I will take a bus to KL. Out of bravery and adventurous, I rode the motorbike to KL instead. The reason why I rode to KL is because I love to be adventurous and also to learn the routes in KL.
There was once, while riding my motorbike to KL, suddenly the front tyre puntured. I was speeding at that time. I immediately slowed down and had a hard time controlling my motorbike. My motorbike was swerving like a snake. I was so lucky that I am able to control of the motorbike and there was no vehicle at that time. Or else, I will be in a very bad situation.
Due to this incident, from that day onwards, I dare not to ride motorbike to KL anymore.
So, from here, we should treasure our life greatly. Its during the teenage life that we have more bravery and adventurous than anyone. But please, remember, every move that you take always consider the loved ones around you will be worrying about you.
Don't let your loved ones grieved for you like Alvin's case. Please treasure life...
Monday, September 22, 2008
Buying Car
Three years ago... when my previous car, the Proton Waja WJA 8262 is in bad condition, I decided to buy a new car.
I don't have much experience when it comes to personal car as I was lucky because ever since I was 18, my dad bought a car and I am the main driver of the car, the Ford Telstar MR6882. Its the family car and hence I am the family driver.
So, I have been driving the Ford until it is totally in very, very bad condition that I decided to get a new car. So, that is how I bought the Proton Waja.
I have used the Proton Waja for about 5 years. The Waja started to give me trouble. So, I decided its time for me to get a new car.
Why do I decide to buy a new car? This was because through my experience with the Ford. Dad bought the Ford. We have been using it as a family car. Dad really took good care of the Ford and the Ford is always in tip top condition.
Because of its good condition, we never think of selling off the Ford. Only after using the Ford for about 12 years, the car started to give us trouble. By the time, it was already too late for us to sell off the Ford because it has no more value. So, that is how I decided to buy the Proton Waja.
The Ford is still being used till today by Leong. I decided to give it to Leong since I have the new Waja.
So... because of the bad experience with the Ford, I was thinking a car is after all a car. The value will depreciate some way some how. It is always good to have a new car not more than 5 years because usually after 5 years the car will start to give all kind of problem. That is how I decided to sell off the Waja and get a new car.
But then which car to buy?
I have made a few visits to a few car show rooms. Finally, myself and Joanne decided to buy the Naza Ria.
The reason I buy the Naza Ria is because it is a MPV which can accomodates 7 people. And best of all it has a television set which I thought will be very good for Jia Chen. So, without thinking much I bought the Naza Ria for RM109 000.
At the initial stage of using the Naza Ria, I was very happy with the condition of the Naza Ria. It is very stable and very comfortable for driving. The only slack of the car is that the car consumed quite a lot of petrol. But then I was thinking, after all I don't drive much and the price of petrol is affordable, so it is still all right.
But after 2 years of using the Naza Ria, suddenly there is this world petrol crisis. The price of the petroluem increased tremendously. So, this is when I started to regret buying this car. So, I decided to sell off this car.
When I wanted to sell off the car, I got the shocked of my life. The salesman quote me only RM60 000 for the car. This means that the car value has depreciated near to 50%. I felt very angry. I wanted to dispose of this car but I cant now because if I sell off the car at RM60 000, I will need to fork out more money to pay to the bank. This is because the car loan is more than the selling price.
So, I have no choice but to keep the Naza Ria as it is right up till today. I really regret very much for not survey much when buying the car. So here is my advice when buying a car.
First of all it is very important to buy a reliable brand and economical petrol consuming car. Just like Joanne's current car, the Toyota Vios. I felt that she made a very wise decision to buy this car because this car is very save on petrol consumtion and best of all it is from a very reliable brand Toyota.
As from what I know and heard, almost every Korean car consumes a lot of petrol. Worst still is that the Korean car has no second hand value.
Please remember that if ever consider to buy a national car, never ever buy a brand new model. I had my problem with the Waja because it is a brand new model. The Gen 2 also gave a lot of people a lot of trouble. Kim Hoe also had a lot trouble with his Perodua Viva which is a brand new model in the market. Generally, Malaysia national car new model in the market always giving the consumer a lot of troubles.
If I have the choice again to buy a car, I will buy a car which is accomodative enough and also economical in petrol consumption. So, currently best choice is to buy the Perodua Myvi.
But then, I have no choice and got stuck with the Naza Ria. I cant sell off the car as it has no market value at all. The petrol consumtion of the car is really killing. I have only regrets for I cant buy another car due to the loan as well.
So, my another advise is that when comes to buy a car, buy the one which is affordable and save in petrol consumption. Never think of big car as to show off. Never buy big cars as the depreciation value is too great. It is better to invest in buying a house rather than buying a big car.
Remember.. house is always an asset. House will never depreciate in value. So, when it comes to buy property, buy big house but buy small car.
I don't have much experience when it comes to personal car as I was lucky because ever since I was 18, my dad bought a car and I am the main driver of the car, the Ford Telstar MR6882. Its the family car and hence I am the family driver.
So, I have been driving the Ford until it is totally in very, very bad condition that I decided to get a new car. So, that is how I bought the Proton Waja.
I have used the Proton Waja for about 5 years. The Waja started to give me trouble. So, I decided its time for me to get a new car.
Why do I decide to buy a new car? This was because through my experience with the Ford. Dad bought the Ford. We have been using it as a family car. Dad really took good care of the Ford and the Ford is always in tip top condition.
Because of its good condition, we never think of selling off the Ford. Only after using the Ford for about 12 years, the car started to give us trouble. By the time, it was already too late for us to sell off the Ford because it has no more value. So, that is how I decided to buy the Proton Waja.
The Ford is still being used till today by Leong. I decided to give it to Leong since I have the new Waja.
So... because of the bad experience with the Ford, I was thinking a car is after all a car. The value will depreciate some way some how. It is always good to have a new car not more than 5 years because usually after 5 years the car will start to give all kind of problem. That is how I decided to sell off the Waja and get a new car.
But then which car to buy?
I have made a few visits to a few car show rooms. Finally, myself and Joanne decided to buy the Naza Ria.
The reason I buy the Naza Ria is because it is a MPV which can accomodates 7 people. And best of all it has a television set which I thought will be very good for Jia Chen. So, without thinking much I bought the Naza Ria for RM109 000.
At the initial stage of using the Naza Ria, I was very happy with the condition of the Naza Ria. It is very stable and very comfortable for driving. The only slack of the car is that the car consumed quite a lot of petrol. But then I was thinking, after all I don't drive much and the price of petrol is affordable, so it is still all right.
But after 2 years of using the Naza Ria, suddenly there is this world petrol crisis. The price of the petroluem increased tremendously. So, this is when I started to regret buying this car. So, I decided to sell off this car.
When I wanted to sell off the car, I got the shocked of my life. The salesman quote me only RM60 000 for the car. This means that the car value has depreciated near to 50%. I felt very angry. I wanted to dispose of this car but I cant now because if I sell off the car at RM60 000, I will need to fork out more money to pay to the bank. This is because the car loan is more than the selling price.
So, I have no choice but to keep the Naza Ria as it is right up till today. I really regret very much for not survey much when buying the car. So here is my advice when buying a car.
First of all it is very important to buy a reliable brand and economical petrol consuming car. Just like Joanne's current car, the Toyota Vios. I felt that she made a very wise decision to buy this car because this car is very save on petrol consumtion and best of all it is from a very reliable brand Toyota.
As from what I know and heard, almost every Korean car consumes a lot of petrol. Worst still is that the Korean car has no second hand value.
Please remember that if ever consider to buy a national car, never ever buy a brand new model. I had my problem with the Waja because it is a brand new model. The Gen 2 also gave a lot of people a lot of trouble. Kim Hoe also had a lot trouble with his Perodua Viva which is a brand new model in the market. Generally, Malaysia national car new model in the market always giving the consumer a lot of troubles.
If I have the choice again to buy a car, I will buy a car which is accomodative enough and also economical in petrol consumption. So, currently best choice is to buy the Perodua Myvi.
But then, I have no choice and got stuck with the Naza Ria. I cant sell off the car as it has no market value at all. The petrol consumtion of the car is really killing. I have only regrets for I cant buy another car due to the loan as well.
So, my another advise is that when comes to buy a car, buy the one which is affordable and save in petrol consumption. Never think of big car as to show off. Never buy big cars as the depreciation value is too great. It is better to invest in buying a house rather than buying a big car.
Remember.. house is always an asset. House will never depreciate in value. So, when it comes to buy property, buy big house but buy small car.
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
The Life Partner ( Wife or Husband )
Last week, Kim Yeong ( bro-in-lw ) came back to stay with us.
I came to know that he ran away from his wife and her family. It seems that his wife and family have been pestering him to buy a new 3 storey house together with them. They wanted to have 3 names (owner) for the house, namely Kim Yeong, his brother-in-law and his sister-in-law.
Kim Yeong felt very angry and disappointed because he has been very supportive of his wife's family. Almost every expenses of the family borned by him.
But of late his wife been pestering him to purchase the new house together with her family members, this is when Kim Yeong felt the full stop for everything.
Kim Yeong was saying, even the family's car, proton saga monthly installment has to be paid by Kim Yeong. What if after purchasing the new house and he has to pay everything for the new house.
Feeling overly pressured, Kim Yeong decided to leave his wife and child behind and come back to stay with his mother.
When I came to know about Kim Yeong story, I did not pity much on him. Why? Because when he was staying with me, I have been advised him so much about family matters.
I have told him and shared with him about my previous marrage. Now, he certainly agreed with me that when a man marries, its no longer about the man and his wife but also about both family together.
Kim Yeong's situation is very much like my situation on my previous marriage.
Initially when I was with Ching ( ex-wife ), we still get along well because she agreed and understood how her parents are.
Her father thought by giving me the bakery business means that giving me the golden bowl. Almost every expenses he incurred, has to be borned by me. Even when he drove to KL or Genting Highlands, the meals, the petrol, charges for car services have to borne by me. Even his daily 3 meals eating out will be claimed.
When he has his relatives from KL visiting him in Ipoh, he will bring them out for sumtious dinner. There he will pay for everything. But upon reaching home, his hand will be taken out to get money from me.
I felt very angry with the in laws. But I still can work out the marriage is because Ching still support me and against her parents as well.
Thinking of what her parents did, I thought the best way is to bring my whole family together with me in Ipoh. So, my parents and younger brother shifted to Ipoh. But, my in laws never gave in and are always demanding.
When dad shifted in not long, dad quarrelled with Ching. I can understand this because I knew dad has bad temper just like Ching.
Ching basically cant get along with anyone with my family member as well. She even dislike my brother, Leong.
I told myself, the only person who has the best temper is mom. If mom also could not tolerate with Ching, this is the time when I should put a full stop to my marriage.
True enough, one day, mom also explode with Ching. That is the time when I know the end of my marriage.
When we look for our life partner, it is very important that we should always put into the consideration of both parties family members and relationship as well.
The way they interact, their financial status will some how affect us and we can know whats our position when we are married.
So, it is very important to choose our life partner wisely.
I came to know that he ran away from his wife and her family. It seems that his wife and family have been pestering him to buy a new 3 storey house together with them. They wanted to have 3 names (owner) for the house, namely Kim Yeong, his brother-in-law and his sister-in-law.
Kim Yeong felt very angry and disappointed because he has been very supportive of his wife's family. Almost every expenses of the family borned by him.
But of late his wife been pestering him to purchase the new house together with her family members, this is when Kim Yeong felt the full stop for everything.
Kim Yeong was saying, even the family's car, proton saga monthly installment has to be paid by Kim Yeong. What if after purchasing the new house and he has to pay everything for the new house.
Feeling overly pressured, Kim Yeong decided to leave his wife and child behind and come back to stay with his mother.
When I came to know about Kim Yeong story, I did not pity much on him. Why? Because when he was staying with me, I have been advised him so much about family matters.
I have told him and shared with him about my previous marrage. Now, he certainly agreed with me that when a man marries, its no longer about the man and his wife but also about both family together.
Kim Yeong's situation is very much like my situation on my previous marriage.
Initially when I was with Ching ( ex-wife ), we still get along well because she agreed and understood how her parents are.
Her father thought by giving me the bakery business means that giving me the golden bowl. Almost every expenses he incurred, has to be borned by me. Even when he drove to KL or Genting Highlands, the meals, the petrol, charges for car services have to borne by me. Even his daily 3 meals eating out will be claimed.
When he has his relatives from KL visiting him in Ipoh, he will bring them out for sumtious dinner. There he will pay for everything. But upon reaching home, his hand will be taken out to get money from me.
I felt very angry with the in laws. But I still can work out the marriage is because Ching still support me and against her parents as well.
Thinking of what her parents did, I thought the best way is to bring my whole family together with me in Ipoh. So, my parents and younger brother shifted to Ipoh. But, my in laws never gave in and are always demanding.
When dad shifted in not long, dad quarrelled with Ching. I can understand this because I knew dad has bad temper just like Ching.
Ching basically cant get along with anyone with my family member as well. She even dislike my brother, Leong.
I told myself, the only person who has the best temper is mom. If mom also could not tolerate with Ching, this is the time when I should put a full stop to my marriage.
True enough, one day, mom also explode with Ching. That is the time when I know the end of my marriage.
When we look for our life partner, it is very important that we should always put into the consideration of both parties family members and relationship as well.
The way they interact, their financial status will some how affect us and we can know whats our position when we are married.
So, it is very important to choose our life partner wisely.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Friends
Ever since I am at very young age, I can easily get friends and befriended anyone.
The inner behaviour in me which is very strong... did not like to hurt or disrespect anyone in any way perhaps earned me many friends. Well... At times I really feel this is disadvantage as well. Cos I do not know how to turn down people politely. Any way, I learn as I grow up to say no to my friends.
Friends... Please take note: Friends can be of great help and also can be our worst enemy and disaster in life...
When I was at my teenage life, practically I have friends everywhere. Who is good and bad, I don't really know how to differentiate them. To me at that time, those who hurt my feelings are the bad ones. But very few of these friends will show their true colour.
At the age of 14, I started to learn how to socialise around. I mixed with few groups of friends. I even mix with friends who are not from my school that is my cousin, Kee. So lucky that mom has always been against me getting close to this friend. Mom told Ms Devi (my tuition teacher) to made me realise on her worries about me and the people I mix with.
I felt so lucky that Ms Devi managed to make me realised how much my parents love me and from that time onwards I did not mix with Kee. Mom is very right. Kee ended up becoming a drug addict and went to prison a few times. So do Kee's friends. Majority of them became drug addicts as well.
By right from here I should learn my lesson well but then I just learned that not to mix with the wrong party. I still do not know what are the harms that friends might do on us.
When I was in my college life, as usual I mix freely with friends. I still remember at one time when I was with few friends walking along Bunga Raya Road in Melaka, I was waiving practically non stop to people. My friends even noticed this and even said I was waiving to so many people from the beginning of the road till the end of the road. That shows how popular and friendly I was.
Finally, it is when at my college life that I learned my lesson well from my classmate, Meng Kiat. At one he was my room mate. I spent so much on him as he is not from a well to do family till he took things for granted out of me. From him, I learnt my lessons well.
From that time onwards, I really learnt my lessons well. Even though I still mix and be friendly with people, I choose my friends carefully.
When I was having my bakery business in Ipoh and Butterworth, I basically do not have any close friends at all through my college lessons.
After divorce, when I am in the tourism industry, again I felt the importance of friends.
It is Chee who helped me back into the tourism industry. And during my guiding life, I come across few friends who are very sincere and helpful. I started to treat Kong, Sam and Thum as very close friends like brothers.
It is very well important that the people we mix with should be the creme de la creme: Meaning to say that if the people that we mix are of top quality, generally we will be one of the top as well.
However, if we are not careful, the friends that we mix with are gamblers, generally we will become gamblers. Please note that friends tend to mould us into what we are as well indirectly without us realising it.
Of course there are just too many bad incidents and experiences that I am very careful with my friends. I always when we have more friends, they are more harmful then useful. Mom has always reminded me this from time to time.
I have few very lucky moments that through friends help that I go through my hardships.
Sam lend me the money so that I have my deposit money to buy this house I call home.
Kong entertain me and accompanying me when I was so down when I broke up with my girlfriend.
Thum helped me when I was really down at my job. He voluntarily allowed me to follow him during his tours. He made me wake up and well aware on how to earn money again.
So, friends could be very helpful. Friends could be very harmful as well. The power is in our hand to choose our own friends. Be smart in choosing friends and they will help you in a lot of ways...
The inner behaviour in me which is very strong... did not like to hurt or disrespect anyone in any way perhaps earned me many friends. Well... At times I really feel this is disadvantage as well. Cos I do not know how to turn down people politely. Any way, I learn as I grow up to say no to my friends.
Friends... Please take note: Friends can be of great help and also can be our worst enemy and disaster in life...
When I was at my teenage life, practically I have friends everywhere. Who is good and bad, I don't really know how to differentiate them. To me at that time, those who hurt my feelings are the bad ones. But very few of these friends will show their true colour.
At the age of 14, I started to learn how to socialise around. I mixed with few groups of friends. I even mix with friends who are not from my school that is my cousin, Kee. So lucky that mom has always been against me getting close to this friend. Mom told Ms Devi (my tuition teacher) to made me realise on her worries about me and the people I mix with.
I felt so lucky that Ms Devi managed to make me realised how much my parents love me and from that time onwards I did not mix with Kee. Mom is very right. Kee ended up becoming a drug addict and went to prison a few times. So do Kee's friends. Majority of them became drug addicts as well.
By right from here I should learn my lesson well but then I just learned that not to mix with the wrong party. I still do not know what are the harms that friends might do on us.
When I was in my college life, as usual I mix freely with friends. I still remember at one time when I was with few friends walking along Bunga Raya Road in Melaka, I was waiving practically non stop to people. My friends even noticed this and even said I was waiving to so many people from the beginning of the road till the end of the road. That shows how popular and friendly I was.
Finally, it is when at my college life that I learned my lesson well from my classmate, Meng Kiat. At one he was my room mate. I spent so much on him as he is not from a well to do family till he took things for granted out of me. From him, I learnt my lessons well.
From that time onwards, I really learnt my lessons well. Even though I still mix and be friendly with people, I choose my friends carefully.
When I was having my bakery business in Ipoh and Butterworth, I basically do not have any close friends at all through my college lessons.
After divorce, when I am in the tourism industry, again I felt the importance of friends.
It is Chee who helped me back into the tourism industry. And during my guiding life, I come across few friends who are very sincere and helpful. I started to treat Kong, Sam and Thum as very close friends like brothers.
It is very well important that the people we mix with should be the creme de la creme: Meaning to say that if the people that we mix are of top quality, generally we will be one of the top as well.
However, if we are not careful, the friends that we mix with are gamblers, generally we will become gamblers. Please note that friends tend to mould us into what we are as well indirectly without us realising it.
Of course there are just too many bad incidents and experiences that I am very careful with my friends. I always when we have more friends, they are more harmful then useful. Mom has always reminded me this from time to time.
I have few very lucky moments that through friends help that I go through my hardships.
Sam lend me the money so that I have my deposit money to buy this house I call home.
Kong entertain me and accompanying me when I was so down when I broke up with my girlfriend.
Thum helped me when I was really down at my job. He voluntarily allowed me to follow him during his tours. He made me wake up and well aware on how to earn money again.
So, friends could be very helpful. Friends could be very harmful as well. The power is in our hand to choose our own friends. Be smart in choosing friends and they will help you in a lot of ways...
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Using Heart And Brain... Recipe For Success
Formerly when I was drinking with Thum most of the time, he used to say we must use our heart when taking the tours. I don't really know what it means till one day I follow his tours.
By using our heart means we will go all the way, work real heart, with full of sincerity, little minor things also we will becareful.
It is very important that no matter which work we do, we use our heart to give it all the way so that we can be very successful.
When I was in the bakery line, I remember from time to time I will invent new cake. Even though when the cake appeared all right, but by the time I put the cake into my mouth, if it doesn't give me the ooomph that I have the urge to go for another bite, then I won't put the cake to the market for sale.
I will keep on trying improving on the flavour of the cake... no matter how long it takes, just like the ma lai koh. It proved to be one of the best among the bakers and now most of the people will go for it.
Not only that when use our heart in our work, it is also very important that we put some time to sit down to think. This is a very, very crucial period.
There are many unsolved problems or inspirations come in when we are able to sit down to think. (using the brain)
It is really a magical thing when we are spending at times only 5 yo 10 minutes on what we are doing.
Of course, in order for us to be successful, there are still very much more important factors. But I always believe we must put in our full effort (heart) and brain.
By using our heart means we will go all the way, work real heart, with full of sincerity, little minor things also we will becareful.
It is very important that no matter which work we do, we use our heart to give it all the way so that we can be very successful.
When I was in the bakery line, I remember from time to time I will invent new cake. Even though when the cake appeared all right, but by the time I put the cake into my mouth, if it doesn't give me the ooomph that I have the urge to go for another bite, then I won't put the cake to the market for sale.
I will keep on trying improving on the flavour of the cake... no matter how long it takes, just like the ma lai koh. It proved to be one of the best among the bakers and now most of the people will go for it.
Not only that when use our heart in our work, it is also very important that we put some time to sit down to think. This is a very, very crucial period.
There are many unsolved problems or inspirations come in when we are able to sit down to think. (using the brain)
It is really a magical thing when we are spending at times only 5 yo 10 minutes on what we are doing.
Of course, in order for us to be successful, there are still very much more important factors. But I always believe we must put in our full effort (heart) and brain.
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Lessons We Don't Learn In School
There are actually 2 important aspects that the schools do not teach us. They are:
1) How we can manage our financial
2) Relationships In the Family
So here, I would like to share my opinion on both topics.
The first one, how we can manage our financial. Since schooling, we are always told by the elders that we must know how to save. But then its just in and out of the ears only cos we are only kids at that time.
Well, how many parents actually do encourage their kids to save money? When I was in primary and secondary, my pocket money for food is given daily by my parents. Basically, I will finish all the money for food. Because dad operates a sundry shop, I am never short of any thing. When I need to replenish any thing for my stationery, etc. I just take it from the shop. In short, I never know and learn about money and how hard it is to earn money.
Only when I am out in the working world only I realised how important it is to learn how to save.
Even when I am at working field, no matter how much I earned, I still find it hard to save money. Mostly I will over spend my money and thats the reason why I have terrible debts with the credit card.
Always remember, credit card is only for convenience. Never take for granted that some way some how, you will be able to pay the bank for using the credit card. Once its accumulated, the outstanding is a never ending process. I have been in nightmares all the while to pay for the credit card. And lucky thing that I only own one credit card.
When buying the house and the car, its always taken for granted that we can pay them back through installments. The banks are actually earning our money.
Its ok to buy a bigger house. Most important thing is that we should try to get as much down payment as posible so that the interest will be low.
As for cars, the smaller it is the better it will be. I really regret to buy the naza ria. Initially I thought it will be in good use for me to travel with family. But after thinking of the petrol that I have to spend the car is really a waste.
Worst of all, my monthly installments for the car and house will come to about $3500 and this did not include other expenses. This also mean that monthly I must earn more that this amount. I am really pressured by the amount that I have to pay for the installments. From time to time, I really regret to buy the naza ria and really wish that I have bought a small and simple car instead.
So, its important that we should know how to save. The money that we save, will be good when we are in need for emergency or investments.
As for the relationships, I was a failure too cos I am a divorcee. I had lots of problems with my first marriage. I find it very difficult to adapt to a new environment and new family life. As such, we quarrelled most of the time which ended in lots of family feud and divorce.
We were brought up in different family and different situation. As a man, I used to demand my wife to have the qualities of my mother. The way my mother took care of dad and the children. I failed to understand that my life partner grew up in a different family and different environment totally. So, naturally I will demand my wife to be like my mum.
Due to these mistakes, after reading books, I realised books have great influence in my life. So, in my next blog I will explain which are the important books which influence my life.
1) How we can manage our financial
2) Relationships In the Family
So here, I would like to share my opinion on both topics.
The first one, how we can manage our financial. Since schooling, we are always told by the elders that we must know how to save. But then its just in and out of the ears only cos we are only kids at that time.
Well, how many parents actually do encourage their kids to save money? When I was in primary and secondary, my pocket money for food is given daily by my parents. Basically, I will finish all the money for food. Because dad operates a sundry shop, I am never short of any thing. When I need to replenish any thing for my stationery, etc. I just take it from the shop. In short, I never know and learn about money and how hard it is to earn money.
Only when I am out in the working world only I realised how important it is to learn how to save.
Even when I am at working field, no matter how much I earned, I still find it hard to save money. Mostly I will over spend my money and thats the reason why I have terrible debts with the credit card.
Always remember, credit card is only for convenience. Never take for granted that some way some how, you will be able to pay the bank for using the credit card. Once its accumulated, the outstanding is a never ending process. I have been in nightmares all the while to pay for the credit card. And lucky thing that I only own one credit card.
When buying the house and the car, its always taken for granted that we can pay them back through installments. The banks are actually earning our money.
Its ok to buy a bigger house. Most important thing is that we should try to get as much down payment as posible so that the interest will be low.
As for cars, the smaller it is the better it will be. I really regret to buy the naza ria. Initially I thought it will be in good use for me to travel with family. But after thinking of the petrol that I have to spend the car is really a waste.
Worst of all, my monthly installments for the car and house will come to about $3500 and this did not include other expenses. This also mean that monthly I must earn more that this amount. I am really pressured by the amount that I have to pay for the installments. From time to time, I really regret to buy the naza ria and really wish that I have bought a small and simple car instead.
So, its important that we should know how to save. The money that we save, will be good when we are in need for emergency or investments.
As for the relationships, I was a failure too cos I am a divorcee. I had lots of problems with my first marriage. I find it very difficult to adapt to a new environment and new family life. As such, we quarrelled most of the time which ended in lots of family feud and divorce.
We were brought up in different family and different situation. As a man, I used to demand my wife to have the qualities of my mother. The way my mother took care of dad and the children. I failed to understand that my life partner grew up in a different family and different environment totally. So, naturally I will demand my wife to be like my mum.
Due to these mistakes, after reading books, I realised books have great influence in my life. So, in my next blog I will explain which are the important books which influence my life.
Friday, June 27, 2008
Greediness...I Hate Most...
Ever since small, parents have taught me not to be greedy. From time to time they will always tell and remind me that we should not take things from other people which are rightly not ours.
As a tour guide, I am also bound with bribes from time to time. Most of the time when I am at the North South Highways, those stall owners will not want my money for the fruits or drink. And when I am at Ah Gu's fruits stall, he will sure to offer me fruits most of time.
Its really heartache to see the drivers and tour guides to abuse this little advantage that they have. No matter how, I will not fall in the trap of greed. Recently Gu's wife visited me at Genting Highlands and she gave me an angpau which has RM600. I intend to return to her through her daughter by wrapping it up and tell her daughter the envelope is for her mom. Its been 2 to 3 years, Gu gave me angpau during CNY which contains about RM500. I have always return the money to him. Its really pity to see him working so hard. How much can he earn from the fruits? So, I will never take any money from him.
From time to time, Gu also always offered me durians or any other fruits. If at any time I do take any fruits from him, I always insist that he must take my money for at least the cost of the fruits.
Recently, I am very very angry with the greediness of the people around me. One of my Indian guests, Mr. Nagpal lost 4 of his luggages. He willing pays RM1000 for the rental of the van to take him to Genting and KL.
During this trip I encountered 2 really bad incidents which really see the ugliness of human beings. The first one was the policeman at the Genting skyway. Met me for only 5 mins and he demanded money from me. Giving me all kinds of excuses for how tired he is just to arrange to call up the manager of the store.
The second and the worst is the van driver. When we (myself and Sam Chua) know that the guests insist on going to Genting to look for the luggages, Sam immediately suggested Mr. Wong. Mr Wong is the van driver and owner of the van. We were thinking its good to let Wong to earn more money instead of the guest getting a taxi from outside.
When Sam called up Wong about the trip to Genting and asked him on how much his charges for the rental of the van. Wong said RM700. Myself and Sam were saying he can charge more because its already late night and furthermore it will be in the morning by the time we reach back to PD. But Wong said RM700 is enough and agreed.
After making the police report, the guest insist on going to Resort hotel and Dorsett hotel. Wong immediately got angry and was grumbling and making a fuss out of it. He said he agreed with Sam that he will drive the guest to Skyway and make a police report only and not to Resort and Dorsett hotel.
I was very angry because when Sam was dealing with Wong I was by Sam's side. I know what is the whole deal like. We felt that we will give RM800 and we share it out the remainder RM200. Wong was grumbling and angry and said if he knew that he has to drive here and there, he would have demanded more. I was angry because he is the one who agreed to do the job but later on grumbling on not paid enough. Later I told Wong that we infact will give him RM800. Upon knowing this, he immediately keep quiet.
I am really very angry with Wong because he didnt pity to the Indian guest and wanted to take advantage of him. From this lesson, its good also to happen in this way because I learnt my lesson well in order to know the true colour of Wong.
When I was back to the hotel and I told him about the bad incidents between me and Wong. He agreed with me that we are actually trying to help Wong hoping that he will earn more money but never reallised that he is so calculative and greedy. From here, we tell each other, should we in need of help we will never let him earn any more money.
LESSON LEARNT: If we are greedy and calculative, people will definitely afraid of us and will not let us have any more chance to earn more money. Greediness will chase away friends.
As a tour guide, I am also bound with bribes from time to time. Most of the time when I am at the North South Highways, those stall owners will not want my money for the fruits or drink. And when I am at Ah Gu's fruits stall, he will sure to offer me fruits most of time.
Its really heartache to see the drivers and tour guides to abuse this little advantage that they have. No matter how, I will not fall in the trap of greed. Recently Gu's wife visited me at Genting Highlands and she gave me an angpau which has RM600. I intend to return to her through her daughter by wrapping it up and tell her daughter the envelope is for her mom. Its been 2 to 3 years, Gu gave me angpau during CNY which contains about RM500. I have always return the money to him. Its really pity to see him working so hard. How much can he earn from the fruits? So, I will never take any money from him.
From time to time, Gu also always offered me durians or any other fruits. If at any time I do take any fruits from him, I always insist that he must take my money for at least the cost of the fruits.
Recently, I am very very angry with the greediness of the people around me. One of my Indian guests, Mr. Nagpal lost 4 of his luggages. He willing pays RM1000 for the rental of the van to take him to Genting and KL.
During this trip I encountered 2 really bad incidents which really see the ugliness of human beings. The first one was the policeman at the Genting skyway. Met me for only 5 mins and he demanded money from me. Giving me all kinds of excuses for how tired he is just to arrange to call up the manager of the store.
The second and the worst is the van driver. When we (myself and Sam Chua) know that the guests insist on going to Genting to look for the luggages, Sam immediately suggested Mr. Wong. Mr Wong is the van driver and owner of the van. We were thinking its good to let Wong to earn more money instead of the guest getting a taxi from outside.
When Sam called up Wong about the trip to Genting and asked him on how much his charges for the rental of the van. Wong said RM700. Myself and Sam were saying he can charge more because its already late night and furthermore it will be in the morning by the time we reach back to PD. But Wong said RM700 is enough and agreed.
After making the police report, the guest insist on going to Resort hotel and Dorsett hotel. Wong immediately got angry and was grumbling and making a fuss out of it. He said he agreed with Sam that he will drive the guest to Skyway and make a police report only and not to Resort and Dorsett hotel.
I was very angry because when Sam was dealing with Wong I was by Sam's side. I know what is the whole deal like. We felt that we will give RM800 and we share it out the remainder RM200. Wong was grumbling and angry and said if he knew that he has to drive here and there, he would have demanded more. I was angry because he is the one who agreed to do the job but later on grumbling on not paid enough. Later I told Wong that we infact will give him RM800. Upon knowing this, he immediately keep quiet.
I am really very angry with Wong because he didnt pity to the Indian guest and wanted to take advantage of him. From this lesson, its good also to happen in this way because I learnt my lesson well in order to know the true colour of Wong.
When I was back to the hotel and I told him about the bad incidents between me and Wong. He agreed with me that we are actually trying to help Wong hoping that he will earn more money but never reallised that he is so calculative and greedy. From here, we tell each other, should we in need of help we will never let him earn any more money.
LESSON LEARNT: If we are greedy and calculative, people will definitely afraid of us and will not let us have any more chance to earn more money. Greediness will chase away friends.
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Learning Languages
As I am now taking the Indian group, I really felt the importance of languages.
When I was a kid, parents used to send me for tuition classes. I started to attend tuition classes ever since I was in standard 3 till when I am in form 5. Most of these tuitions are mainly on improving my english, bahasa and mathematics.
I remembered most among my tuition teachers are Mr. Kasi, Ms Devi and Mr. Tan. Mr Kasi was my std 5 class teacher and also my tuition teacher. He is very, very strict in class. If we have more than 2 mistakes for maths then we will be caned on our hand.
Ms. Devi is someone who I must really thanked for. Until now I do not know where she is now. Wherever she is, I wish her all the best. She taught me the english language. At that time I was in Form 2. That is the time when I started to mix around and socialise. I was mixing with two groups for friends at that time.
One is my own classmates. With these classmates, not much of harm done except that at very young age already wanted to know more female friends and was hoping to have a girlfriend as well.
As for the other group, I mixed with my cousin, Kee and his friends. Kee and his friends all all so much more elder than me. My mother really worried that I like to mix with this group. Initially, I do not know why mom really against me mixing with Kee. Kee and his friends at the end turned up to be drug addicts and Kee was even prisoned twice. It is very fortunate that mom talk to Ms. Devi about this problem. One day, after the tuition class, Ms Devi asked me to stay behind and talk to me. She made me realise how important for me to have my parents trusts and how much my parents loved and worried for me for mixing with the wrong parties. She really made me realised and from that time onwards, I dont mix with Kee and his friends anymore and I started to earn trust from my parents. I really owe Ms Devi for this favour or else I could have been a drug addict.
Lesson Learnt: It is very important we know well the people that we mixed with. At the teenager age, it is well known as the rebellion age. Its lucky that Ms Devi made me open up my eyes and turn a new leaf.
Mr Tan was my Form 4 and 5 maths teacher. After form 5, he was also the one who made me got interested with computer. He was the one who taught me the basic programing. He is a very serious teacher and learned a lot from him too.
When I was in Form 6, parents sent me for english tuition with another Mr. Tan but then he is too boring. Learn nothing much from him.
It was very lucky that when small, parents nurtured me with what ever education which they feel suitable for me. They always encourage me to study well and improve on languages. I was lucky that in a way I was born a linguist as well. I catch up languages easily.
My only regret is that during school days I never took up the Mandarin classes seriously. If only I am willing to learn Chinese, then for sure I am going to be a better tour guide. I really feel handicapped since I dont read or write Chinese. But still I am very lucky that I can speak Mandarin very well and I can be a China tour guide to earn a living.
Lesson Learnt: Always learn as many languages as possible. They will be the most useful tool for communications. Any professions will require good command of languages. Once a person who is good in languages, he/she will automatically master whatever courses, job skills, etc easily. The most important language is English. Then its the Mandarin. And if one can learn about French of course it is so much better.
When I was a kid, parents used to send me for tuition classes. I started to attend tuition classes ever since I was in standard 3 till when I am in form 5. Most of these tuitions are mainly on improving my english, bahasa and mathematics.
I remembered most among my tuition teachers are Mr. Kasi, Ms Devi and Mr. Tan. Mr Kasi was my std 5 class teacher and also my tuition teacher. He is very, very strict in class. If we have more than 2 mistakes for maths then we will be caned on our hand.
Ms. Devi is someone who I must really thanked for. Until now I do not know where she is now. Wherever she is, I wish her all the best. She taught me the english language. At that time I was in Form 2. That is the time when I started to mix around and socialise. I was mixing with two groups for friends at that time.
One is my own classmates. With these classmates, not much of harm done except that at very young age already wanted to know more female friends and was hoping to have a girlfriend as well.
As for the other group, I mixed with my cousin, Kee and his friends. Kee and his friends all all so much more elder than me. My mother really worried that I like to mix with this group. Initially, I do not know why mom really against me mixing with Kee. Kee and his friends at the end turned up to be drug addicts and Kee was even prisoned twice. It is very fortunate that mom talk to Ms. Devi about this problem. One day, after the tuition class, Ms Devi asked me to stay behind and talk to me. She made me realise how important for me to have my parents trusts and how much my parents loved and worried for me for mixing with the wrong parties. She really made me realised and from that time onwards, I dont mix with Kee and his friends anymore and I started to earn trust from my parents. I really owe Ms Devi for this favour or else I could have been a drug addict.
Lesson Learnt: It is very important we know well the people that we mixed with. At the teenager age, it is well known as the rebellion age. Its lucky that Ms Devi made me open up my eyes and turn a new leaf.
Mr Tan was my Form 4 and 5 maths teacher. After form 5, he was also the one who made me got interested with computer. He was the one who taught me the basic programing. He is a very serious teacher and learned a lot from him too.
When I was in Form 6, parents sent me for english tuition with another Mr. Tan but then he is too boring. Learn nothing much from him.
It was very lucky that when small, parents nurtured me with what ever education which they feel suitable for me. They always encourage me to study well and improve on languages. I was lucky that in a way I was born a linguist as well. I catch up languages easily.
My only regret is that during school days I never took up the Mandarin classes seriously. If only I am willing to learn Chinese, then for sure I am going to be a better tour guide. I really feel handicapped since I dont read or write Chinese. But still I am very lucky that I can speak Mandarin very well and I can be a China tour guide to earn a living.
Lesson Learnt: Always learn as many languages as possible. They will be the most useful tool for communications. Any professions will require good command of languages. Once a person who is good in languages, he/she will automatically master whatever courses, job skills, etc easily. The most important language is English. Then its the Mandarin. And if one can learn about French of course it is so much better.
Sunday, June 15, 2008
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY
Today is Father's Day... Never in my life been celebrating father's day with dad...
Deep in my heart, I have always been feeling very guilty and always feel that I never did enough for dad for what he has sacrificed for the family so far... But dad never complain...
Infact dad is actually someone whom I admired very, very much. He has lots of qualities which I really hope I can inherit from him...
One thing for sure...Dad is surely one of the most industrious person on earth that I ever known. He really worked hard for money and never ever once complain to us. He was a sundry shopkeeper. When he was running the sundry shop, within a year, he has only 4 off days which is during the Chinese New Year. He even work on Sundays. He earned hard money to support my education and the whole family. He worked from 7am to 11pm everyday.
Dad is surely someone who earned every single cents he could. I still remember when I was at secondary school I have to help out at the shop. One day, there was a customer ordering half scraped coconut and to be sent to her house. Her house is located about 5km away from the shop. Dad asked me to send the coconut to her house. I was very angry saying that its only half a coconut and the house is so far away yet still have to send it. Dad insisted on it saying that if we wanted to keep customers, we must provide good service to customers. At that time, no one in the family can drive a car or ride a motorcycle. We send the goods no matter how far by bicycle.
Can you imagine half a coconut only cost 25cents and how much my dad can earn out of it? Every evening, I also have to send bread to the customers. At that time, a loaf of sunshine bread costs only 50cents. But as a service to customers, I have to send it.
I still remember when at night, dad loves to watch football or badminton matches. And everytime he watches the matches, he will surely fall asleep while sitting on the sofa. We will be giggling and laughing at dad. We were small then and do not understand how tired dad must be.
During the afternoon, if dad can have a short nap, it will be a big pleasure for him.
Dad studied Chinese school right up to standard six only. He has to work at very young age because he has to help out to support the family. Dad is the eldest male in the family. He really gave me a good example as how he took care of his family. Till this very day, he will constantly make phone calls to his sisters and brothers. And whenever he has the chance he will pay a visit to them. Should there be any big ceremony for the family member, he is sure to make a point to be there.
Dad's best policy is honesty. He always believe that we have to be responsible and reliable all the time. So, whenever dad is in bad financial position, he can easily get a loan from his friends or family member.
Even though dad studied only to standard six, he knows the importance of education. Thats the reason why he always encourages us to study hard.
When I was in Ipoh, my bakery business was doing very well. I asked dad to give up his business and come to help me out. He has to open invoices and give stocks to the customers. He is willing to give up his own business just to help me out at the bakery. He really sacrificed so much for me.
When he gave up his business in Melaka, most of his customers and friends really missed him. There are full of praises for my parents. They made many friends and are always very good to the neighbours. One of his customers told me, since dad shifted away, they can never enjoy a better service than anyone.
Leong (brother) and I insisted that parents should retire. Since 2 years ago, they have shifted to stay with Leong. Even so, whenever big festival is going on, dad still travel all the way to Butterworth to help Eng (sister).
I always feel heartache each time I met up with dad. He looks older and older. But I always feel lucky that dad is as healthy as ever. He really takes care of his health. Everyday 6am, he will go for morning walk. He has been doing this since he was 40.
Dad... I wish that you can live as long posible. You are definitely the best dad in the world...
DAD... I LOVE YOU...
Deep in my heart, I have always been feeling very guilty and always feel that I never did enough for dad for what he has sacrificed for the family so far... But dad never complain...
Infact dad is actually someone whom I admired very, very much. He has lots of qualities which I really hope I can inherit from him...
One thing for sure...Dad is surely one of the most industrious person on earth that I ever known. He really worked hard for money and never ever once complain to us. He was a sundry shopkeeper. When he was running the sundry shop, within a year, he has only 4 off days which is during the Chinese New Year. He even work on Sundays. He earned hard money to support my education and the whole family. He worked from 7am to 11pm everyday.
Dad is surely someone who earned every single cents he could. I still remember when I was at secondary school I have to help out at the shop. One day, there was a customer ordering half scraped coconut and to be sent to her house. Her house is located about 5km away from the shop. Dad asked me to send the coconut to her house. I was very angry saying that its only half a coconut and the house is so far away yet still have to send it. Dad insisted on it saying that if we wanted to keep customers, we must provide good service to customers. At that time, no one in the family can drive a car or ride a motorcycle. We send the goods no matter how far by bicycle.
Can you imagine half a coconut only cost 25cents and how much my dad can earn out of it? Every evening, I also have to send bread to the customers. At that time, a loaf of sunshine bread costs only 50cents. But as a service to customers, I have to send it.
I still remember when at night, dad loves to watch football or badminton matches. And everytime he watches the matches, he will surely fall asleep while sitting on the sofa. We will be giggling and laughing at dad. We were small then and do not understand how tired dad must be.
During the afternoon, if dad can have a short nap, it will be a big pleasure for him.
Dad studied Chinese school right up to standard six only. He has to work at very young age because he has to help out to support the family. Dad is the eldest male in the family. He really gave me a good example as how he took care of his family. Till this very day, he will constantly make phone calls to his sisters and brothers. And whenever he has the chance he will pay a visit to them. Should there be any big ceremony for the family member, he is sure to make a point to be there.
Dad's best policy is honesty. He always believe that we have to be responsible and reliable all the time. So, whenever dad is in bad financial position, he can easily get a loan from his friends or family member.
Even though dad studied only to standard six, he knows the importance of education. Thats the reason why he always encourages us to study hard.
When I was in Ipoh, my bakery business was doing very well. I asked dad to give up his business and come to help me out. He has to open invoices and give stocks to the customers. He is willing to give up his own business just to help me out at the bakery. He really sacrificed so much for me.
When he gave up his business in Melaka, most of his customers and friends really missed him. There are full of praises for my parents. They made many friends and are always very good to the neighbours. One of his customers told me, since dad shifted away, they can never enjoy a better service than anyone.
Leong (brother) and I insisted that parents should retire. Since 2 years ago, they have shifted to stay with Leong. Even so, whenever big festival is going on, dad still travel all the way to Butterworth to help Eng (sister).
I always feel heartache each time I met up with dad. He looks older and older. But I always feel lucky that dad is as healthy as ever. He really takes care of his health. Everyday 6am, he will go for morning walk. He has been doing this since he was 40.
Dad... I wish that you can live as long posible. You are definitely the best dad in the world...
DAD... I LOVE YOU...
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Met With Daddy
Woke up at about 11something. Then immediately get ready to go to Subang to see dad. While on the way there bought the San Kee roast duck for dad n family. Then went to the ss19 to eat the mi hun kuih. (Joanne's favourite). Waited for about an hour just for this mi hun kuih.
Reach Leong house at about 2pm. Chit chatting with dad and mom...
At 4.30pm left. Went to Mid-Vally for shopping and movie. We watch the Panda Kungfu. A very funny movie. Too bad that we watch the cantonese version. Intend to buy the english version so that BB Chua can watch it as well.
We had our dinner at a nearby hawker centre 118. Reach home at about 11.30pm.
Today Joanne told me a marriage is like a gamble. She told me when we were shopping at Mid Valley, she saw an Indian family. In her past experiences and encounters, most Indians have very bad family relationship due to the males who are drunkards. I told her don't have such a racial thinking... but in a way its true. I told Joanne I definitely agree with her. After all I have lost my gamble before but I won this time for having this family.
When at Leong house mom told me, Mok's (bro-in-lw) nephew, at only 16yrs old already started to sell ICE. Mom told me its really not easy to look after kids. So, we must always becareful with our kids all the time.
While on the way back home after dinner, I told Joanne that Damai Perdana is already a township. All the while, she was saying this place is really a deserted place. (Even birds don't lay eggs here) But I told her, she has been staying here for more than 5 years liao.
Coming to think of it, actually my relationship with Joanne is all fated and pre-destined. When I saw Joaane last time, I did say in my heart... OOOH how nice if I can get this gal as my gf or wife. But I don't have confidence of getting a gf cos of my past reputation in the tour guides circle.
Then one night so coincidence, we were drinking in the casino... then proceeded to the disco STUDIO 98 in Genting Highlands. I was also there with my tour leader friend Linda. There itself when I get to know Joanne, I told Linda confidently that I am going to chase after this gal and made her my wife. At the disco itself, I got hold of Joanne's hp no and from there onwards I have been projecting on her.
Life is really predestined that we are together. Continuously a few groups while guiding, coincidentally she is also guiding. So, I took this opportunity to get to know her better and getting closer to her.
Finally, a night when we were guiding and staying in Melaka, this is the first time I made love to Joanne. From here onwards, I knew I have won her heart.
Just like what I have said all the while, even god is helping me to be with Joanne. While courting with Joanne (after about 2-3 mth), suddenly Joanne's landlord wanted back the house. So, immediately I offer her to shift over to stay with me. Initially she is quite reluctant... but with my persuasive technique, I finally manage to persuade her to stay with me...
Lesson Learnt: In love life, we must learn how to fight for ourselves. Just like my relationship with Joanne, because I have the confidence and really fight all the way... finally I won the heart of Joanne.
Reach Leong house at about 2pm. Chit chatting with dad and mom...
At 4.30pm left. Went to Mid-Vally for shopping and movie. We watch the Panda Kungfu. A very funny movie. Too bad that we watch the cantonese version. Intend to buy the english version so that BB Chua can watch it as well.
We had our dinner at a nearby hawker centre 118. Reach home at about 11.30pm.
Today Joanne told me a marriage is like a gamble. She told me when we were shopping at Mid Valley, she saw an Indian family. In her past experiences and encounters, most Indians have very bad family relationship due to the males who are drunkards. I told her don't have such a racial thinking... but in a way its true. I told Joanne I definitely agree with her. After all I have lost my gamble before but I won this time for having this family.
When at Leong house mom told me, Mok's (bro-in-lw) nephew, at only 16yrs old already started to sell ICE. Mom told me its really not easy to look after kids. So, we must always becareful with our kids all the time.
While on the way back home after dinner, I told Joanne that Damai Perdana is already a township. All the while, she was saying this place is really a deserted place. (Even birds don't lay eggs here) But I told her, she has been staying here for more than 5 years liao.
Coming to think of it, actually my relationship with Joanne is all fated and pre-destined. When I saw Joaane last time, I did say in my heart... OOOH how nice if I can get this gal as my gf or wife. But I don't have confidence of getting a gf cos of my past reputation in the tour guides circle.
Then one night so coincidence, we were drinking in the casino... then proceeded to the disco STUDIO 98 in Genting Highlands. I was also there with my tour leader friend Linda. There itself when I get to know Joanne, I told Linda confidently that I am going to chase after this gal and made her my wife. At the disco itself, I got hold of Joanne's hp no and from there onwards I have been projecting on her.
Life is really predestined that we are together. Continuously a few groups while guiding, coincidentally she is also guiding. So, I took this opportunity to get to know her better and getting closer to her.
Finally, a night when we were guiding and staying in Melaka, this is the first time I made love to Joanne. From here onwards, I knew I have won her heart.
Just like what I have said all the while, even god is helping me to be with Joanne. While courting with Joanne (after about 2-3 mth), suddenly Joanne's landlord wanted back the house. So, immediately I offer her to shift over to stay with me. Initially she is quite reluctant... but with my persuasive technique, I finally manage to persuade her to stay with me...
Lesson Learnt: In love life, we must learn how to fight for ourselves. Just like my relationship with Joanne, because I have the confidence and really fight all the way... finally I won the heart of Joanne.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Precious Relationship Moments
Day in and day out... I believe most parents are out there busy everyday... spending most of their time on work or looking for money. Everyday we are busy, busy, busy... And when friends, colleagues and loved ones (family members) asked.. hei where are you or when are you free to spend time to have a drink with us? And as usual, we are full with excuses... BUSY, BUSY, BUSY...
On this coming 13th June 2008, HCIMC (hotel college) excollegemates are organising a reunion again. I am having a very big question mark here. I really wonder if I can make it for this important day. For me its very important for me to meet up with these long lost friends. But on the other side I have been taking such a long holidays. I have no choice as my wallet is getting thinner and thinner. Friends will never understand this. So I have no choice but to take the Indian group on 12th June 2008. Anyway, I am telling myself... if its so happen that the itinerary arranged as such that I am in KL then of course I will be there. Friends are friends... they are also important...
LESSON LEARNT: I learnt the importance of friends when my relationship broke up with Joyce Lee (ex-gf). When one is down with a love relationship, friends are the most important because they are the ones who will cheer you up. You will spend most of your time with friends because you just cant afford to be alone at such a bad time. So, when with friends, time flies... and its easier to forget the relationship...
I have purposely taken this time off to spend more valuable time to be with my family members. As a tour guide, I go out work early than anyone. When I reach home, most of my family members are asleep liao. So, its very important that I have to arrange as such that I can spend valuable moments with my family members.
Two days ago, dad called saying it has been such a long time that he did not see me. In fact, I always made a point to visit them when ever possible. We visited them on the 1st June 2008 but unfortunately dad is not around. Again, he went to Butterworth to help with the bakery. Anyway, tommorrow I make it a point that I will go to visit dad. It always made me heartache to see them getting older. But I always feel so lucky that both my parents are still so healthy. I have always prayed that they will keep up to good health and longevity...
During this holiday, I found that its really worth it since Tze Yi has been accepting me. In the past, at times when I wanted to approach her is also difficult. She will cry when I wanted to hug her. But after spending few days with her, she started to accept me. What made me even more happier is that even Joanne is carrying her, she easily accepts me now.
This evening, we went to the playground. We play kites there. These days I started to play more with Jia Chen... M feeling so happy that my relationship with him is getting better and better.
LESSON LEARNT: No matter how busy we are, we should always find time to be with our loved ones. Our loved ones include everyone: Friends, colleages, relatives, all family members... How close our relationship is always determined by the time we spent on each other. The more time that we spent on each other the bond will grow eventually...
On this coming 13th June 2008, HCIMC (hotel college) excollegemates are organising a reunion again. I am having a very big question mark here. I really wonder if I can make it for this important day. For me its very important for me to meet up with these long lost friends. But on the other side I have been taking such a long holidays. I have no choice as my wallet is getting thinner and thinner. Friends will never understand this. So I have no choice but to take the Indian group on 12th June 2008. Anyway, I am telling myself... if its so happen that the itinerary arranged as such that I am in KL then of course I will be there. Friends are friends... they are also important...
LESSON LEARNT: I learnt the importance of friends when my relationship broke up with Joyce Lee (ex-gf). When one is down with a love relationship, friends are the most important because they are the ones who will cheer you up. You will spend most of your time with friends because you just cant afford to be alone at such a bad time. So, when with friends, time flies... and its easier to forget the relationship...
I have purposely taken this time off to spend more valuable time to be with my family members. As a tour guide, I go out work early than anyone. When I reach home, most of my family members are asleep liao. So, its very important that I have to arrange as such that I can spend valuable moments with my family members.
Two days ago, dad called saying it has been such a long time that he did not see me. In fact, I always made a point to visit them when ever possible. We visited them on the 1st June 2008 but unfortunately dad is not around. Again, he went to Butterworth to help with the bakery. Anyway, tommorrow I make it a point that I will go to visit dad. It always made me heartache to see them getting older. But I always feel so lucky that both my parents are still so healthy. I have always prayed that they will keep up to good health and longevity...
During this holiday, I found that its really worth it since Tze Yi has been accepting me. In the past, at times when I wanted to approach her is also difficult. She will cry when I wanted to hug her. But after spending few days with her, she started to accept me. What made me even more happier is that even Joanne is carrying her, she easily accepts me now.
This evening, we went to the playground. We play kites there. These days I started to play more with Jia Chen... M feeling so happy that my relationship with him is getting better and better.
LESSON LEARNT: No matter how busy we are, we should always find time to be with our loved ones. Our loved ones include everyone: Friends, colleages, relatives, all family members... How close our relationship is always determined by the time we spent on each other. The more time that we spent on each other the bond will grow eventually...
Monday, June 9, 2008
Recharging Relationship
As planned, we headed for KL on 8th June 2008. Very hectic journey as terible road jam and everyone is heading back to KL as school reopens the next day. Check out at the Kajang interchange and using the Balakong way to reach home. Reach home at about 6.30pm.
We went to Jia Chen restaurant at San Peng flat for dinner. We had the curry prawn, pork bone with tendon (Good), young bean, turtle (Good) and 3 Tiger (B) 2 Stout (S) for RM150.
After dinner, Joanne wanted to continue to karaoke. So we went the the Red Box at Low Yat plaza. We had enjoyable time and we were there from 11pm till 3.30am.
LESSON LEARNT: Joanne keeps saying that when we are with our children and when the children laughing happily playing with us, the laughter and the happiness that we enjoyed are something that money cant buy. So, we must really know how to treasure the family relationship all the time.
When at the karaoke, Joanne was quite tipsy. She keeps reminding me that one a plate is broken, no matter how we amend them back the crack will forever be there.
We went to Jia Chen restaurant at San Peng flat for dinner. We had the curry prawn, pork bone with tendon (Good), young bean, turtle (Good) and 3 Tiger (B) 2 Stout (S) for RM150.
After dinner, Joanne wanted to continue to karaoke. So we went the the Red Box at Low Yat plaza. We had enjoyable time and we were there from 11pm till 3.30am.
LESSON LEARNT: Joanne keeps saying that when we are with our children and when the children laughing happily playing with us, the laughter and the happiness that we enjoyed are something that money cant buy. So, we must really know how to treasure the family relationship all the time.
When at the karaoke, Joanne was quite tipsy. She keeps reminding me that one a plate is broken, no matter how we amend them back the crack will forever be there.
Saturday, June 7, 2008
Anger Management
After dinner of assam fish head, I decided that we go to Econsave supermarket for jalan-jalan and to buy some groceries.
After picking up the groceries, went to the cashier counter to pay. When I was going to the cashier counter, I noticed the "Cash Payment Only" signboards. So I have no choice but to stroll down till the cashier counter which does not have the signboard. This is because I have to pay by credit card because I am lacked of cash.
The cashier took the groceries and swipe them. When I wanted to pay by credit card, the cashier told me its only for cash payment only. I was very angry because I have noticed on those sign boards. The cashier pointed to me the cash sign board. But the cash signboard was hidden by 2 advertisement boards. I demanded to pay by credit card because its my right and furthermore I dont have any cash. So the cashier has no choice but the flag for the supervisor.
The supervisor came. She did not apologise. I told her its not my mistake. Then she asked me to wait. After waiting for about 5 min she came. She closed and cancelled off my reciept and wanted me to go to another counter to scan again all those groceries that we have bought.
I was very angry with the stupidity of the supervisor. Why cant she just transfer my bill to another counter but she insisted on transfering my groceries to another counter. Very very pissed off, I told them I am not going to buy the groceries. I told them I am going to lodge a complaint against them. And I walked off.
When reaching home, still feeling very angry, I went to surf the net to check on Econsave so that I can complaint. When I surf, I found that Econsave (such a big company with so many branches throughout Malaysia) webpage is just scanned and posted into the website. It boasts of having customer service hotline to serve the customer better because customer is always right. To my surprised Econsave didnt even have its own hotline.
LESSON LEARNT: I was asking myself what if I did not make a fuss out of it on such a matter, then BB Chua could have the coloring books for so cheap. Well, its good to control anger but I am just fighting for my own rites after all.
In the evening, overheard Ah Yee (mom-in-law) talking in the phone persuading Kim Hoe (youngest bro-in-law) to keep cool with Eileen (Kim Hoe's GF). At night, after the econsave incidents, I told Kim Hoe, as a couple, we should know how to appreciate the happy time that we spent together with our loved ones. So, we should know how to be patient. I told him if Eileen is making a fuss, just ask her to STOP. If she carries on grumbling, again demand her to STOP instead of throwing temper and argue with her. When both have cooled down, then Kim Hoe should bring up this matter to Eileen. Not to argue and lost the precious moments together.
After picking up the groceries, went to the cashier counter to pay. When I was going to the cashier counter, I noticed the "Cash Payment Only" signboards. So I have no choice but to stroll down till the cashier counter which does not have the signboard. This is because I have to pay by credit card because I am lacked of cash.
The cashier took the groceries and swipe them. When I wanted to pay by credit card, the cashier told me its only for cash payment only. I was very angry because I have noticed on those sign boards. The cashier pointed to me the cash sign board. But the cash signboard was hidden by 2 advertisement boards. I demanded to pay by credit card because its my right and furthermore I dont have any cash. So the cashier has no choice but the flag for the supervisor.
The supervisor came. She did not apologise. I told her its not my mistake. Then she asked me to wait. After waiting for about 5 min she came. She closed and cancelled off my reciept and wanted me to go to another counter to scan again all those groceries that we have bought.
I was very angry with the stupidity of the supervisor. Why cant she just transfer my bill to another counter but she insisted on transfering my groceries to another counter. Very very pissed off, I told them I am not going to buy the groceries. I told them I am going to lodge a complaint against them. And I walked off.
When reaching home, still feeling very angry, I went to surf the net to check on Econsave so that I can complaint. When I surf, I found that Econsave (such a big company with so many branches throughout Malaysia) webpage is just scanned and posted into the website. It boasts of having customer service hotline to serve the customer better because customer is always right. To my surprised Econsave didnt even have its own hotline.
LESSON LEARNT: I was asking myself what if I did not make a fuss out of it on such a matter, then BB Chua could have the coloring books for so cheap. Well, its good to control anger but I am just fighting for my own rites after all.
In the evening, overheard Ah Yee (mom-in-law) talking in the phone persuading Kim Hoe (youngest bro-in-law) to keep cool with Eileen (Kim Hoe's GF). At night, after the econsave incidents, I told Kim Hoe, as a couple, we should know how to appreciate the happy time that we spent together with our loved ones. So, we should know how to be patient. I told him if Eileen is making a fuss, just ask her to STOP. If she carries on grumbling, again demand her to STOP instead of throwing temper and argue with her. When both have cooled down, then Kim Hoe should bring up this matter to Eileen. Not to argue and lost the precious moments together.
Friday, June 6, 2008
First Posting
Today 6th June 2008 is my first successful webpage posting. All the while I have wanted to post my own blog or webpage. But anyway this is my very first successful attempt.
My main objectives of this blog are:
My main objectives of this blog are:
- To share my experiences ( life, travel, meal, booze, etc. )
- To log my daily life as to my personal diary.
- Finally its for my children to learn life from me through my history.
As for today, I am still having holiday in Muar ( my wife's hometown ). We intend to stay here till 8th June 2008. We arrive here on 5th June 2008.
Its still school holiday in Malaysia. So thats the reason why I took a short holiday with family. On the 2nd June 2008 we went to Genting Highlands. We go to Genting because its a promised to Jia Chen ( my son ) : If he goes to school everyday then we will take him to Genting for holiday.
Stayed in First World hotel for 2 nights. Arrived in Genting at about 2pm. Checked into the hotel room. Then we took Jia Chen to the outdoor and indoor themepark.
On the 4th June 2008, on the way back home made a stop over at the Zoo negara. Entrance fees: RM15 ( A ) RM6 ( C ). Its school holiday so there's 50% discount for school kids. Was quite amazed by the zoo animals and facilities after so many years never been there. They have the tram facilities for the tourists to move around in the zoo. This is very helpful indeed as to view the animals. We were there for about 2 hours and its about to rain. So we have to go back.
When at home, Joanne ( my dearest baby ) suggested that we go to enjoy ourselves tonight. At night, went for a Japanese meal at Rakuzen. Its a very delicious meal n dining experience. This restaurant which is located at Chulan square is one of my favourite restaurant. As usual, when we are there, the asst. manager Jack Lau recommended the food to us. We had quite a variety of food:
- Sushi ( flying fish, lots of sea urchins, etc. )
- A special order of sushi: Japanese abalone ( taste so so only but damn expensive RM280 )
- Vegetable soup
- Sanma fish
- Fish Head ( seasonal fish )
- Chawan mushi
- Japanese wine.
After the dinner, we went to Aloha for clubbing. Enjoyed that night very much with Joanne.
The next day, 5th June 2008 the whole family went to Muar.
We went to Bundayan ( Muar famous hawker centre ) for dinner. We had:
- 3 bowls of mi hun kuih
- 2 herbal soup
- 10 sticks of mixed satay
- 1 fried prawn noodle
- 3 glasses of sugar cane.
All in cost less than RM40.
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