The Life Partner ( Wife or Husband )

Last week, Kim Yeong ( bro-in-lw ) came back to stay with us.

I came to know that he ran away from his wife and her family. It seems that his wife and family have been pestering him to buy a new 3 storey house together with them. They wanted to have 3 names (owner) for the house, namely Kim Yeong, his brother-in-law and his sister-in-law.

Kim Yeong felt very angry and disappointed because he has been very supportive of his wife's family. Almost every expenses of the family borned by him.

But of late his wife been pestering him to purchase the new house together with her family members, this is when Kim Yeong felt the full stop for everything.

Kim Yeong was saying, even the family's car, proton saga monthly installment has to be paid by Kim Yeong. What if after purchasing the new house and he has to pay everything for the new house.

Feeling overly pressured, Kim Yeong decided to leave his wife and child behind and come back to stay with his mother.

When I came to know about Kim Yeong story, I did not pity much on him. Why? Because when he was staying with me, I have been advised him so much about family matters.

I have told him and shared with him about my previous marrage. Now, he certainly agreed with me that when a man marries, its no longer about the man and his wife but also about both family together.

Kim Yeong's situation is very much like my situation on my previous marriage.

Initially when I was with Ching ( ex-wife ), we still get along well because she agreed and understood how her parents are.

Her father thought by giving me the bakery business means that giving me the golden bowl. Almost every expenses he incurred, has to be borned by me. Even when he drove to KL or Genting Highlands, the meals, the petrol, charges for car services have to borne by me. Even his daily 3 meals eating out will be claimed.

When he has his relatives from KL visiting him in Ipoh, he will bring them out for sumtious dinner. There he will pay for everything. But upon reaching home, his hand will be taken out to get money from me.

I felt very angry with the in laws. But I still can work out the marriage is because Ching still support me and against her parents as well.

Thinking of what her parents did, I thought the best way is to bring my whole family together with me in Ipoh. So, my parents and younger brother shifted to Ipoh. But, my in laws never gave in and are always demanding.

When dad shifted in not long, dad quarrelled with Ching. I can understand this because I knew dad has bad temper just like Ching.

Ching basically cant get along with anyone with my family member as well. She even dislike my brother, Leong.

I told myself, the only person who has the best temper is mom. If mom also could not tolerate with Ching, this is the time when I should put a full stop to my marriage.

True enough, one day, mom also explode with Ching. That is the time when I know the end of my marriage.

When we look for our life partner, it is very important that we should always put into the consideration of both parties family members and relationship as well.

The way they interact, their financial status will some how affect us and we can know whats our position when we are married.

So, it is very important to choose our life partner wisely.