I have been practising meditation about 6 months ago. After practising meditation, I realised I have reaped a lot of benefits from meditation.
Initially, I have difficulties to concentrate on how to meditate. After I have done my research in the internet, I found my way through on how to meditate.
Of course, the best time to meditate will always be in the morning or late in the evening. The morning session will always the best especially after you have just woke up because you are still very fresh. The reason to do it in either in the morning or evening because it is quiet during this session.
My favourite timing is usually after my morning walk at the park. After relaxing for a while, I will usually start of meditating.
When I newly started meditating, I found that it is very difficult to concentrate for meditation because the mind tends to sway away. I started to meditate for very short period of about 5 minutes. Now, I can easily meditate for about 20 minutes.
When you want to meditate, it is very important to find a good location which is quiet and calm.
Then sit comfortably. The way we sit is to make sure that our body is straighten up and breath easily. I prefer to sit up right rather than sitting with crossing legs.
After that, I will close my eyes. I will first concentrate on my breathing. Then I will start to dream on my OBJECTIVES of my life. One by one I will try to picture it as clear as possible in my mind.
I will do it basically for about 15 to 20 minutes each day after my regular exercise.
After practising meditation, of course the benefits I gained are tremendous.
1) Since I have practised meditation as suggested in the SECRET, I found that my financial situation is getting better and better.
2) During the course of my job, I am getting full satisfaction and reaped better achievements.
3) My health is getting better each day.
4) My mind work much better and so much more organised.
5) My family relationship getting better each day.
6) I appreciate things better.
7) My temper is getting so much better.
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Good Lesson In Life : Fresh Fish Head Failure
On the 1st Aug 2009, I started my claypot curry fish head business at Tasty Corner, Taman Connaught, Cheras. It was a Saturday.
On this very first day, I only manage to get one outsider customer. The rest of it are my friends who came to support me.
On the second day, as it was Sunday, it was totally very quiet. I sell nothing the whole day.
The third day is Monday. I told myself, this is the most important day as this is actually my main aim. Very unfortunately, again throughout the day no business at all.
So, here I want to share with you one of my biggest mistakes.
1) Too Rush : Did not have proper surveying on the location
All the while I knew that a location for a business is the utmost important and I kept on telling Joanne about it. But then I am doing this business without realising it.
When I went out scouting the location for my business on the first week of July 2009, I come to this coffee shop by the name of Tasty Corner at Taman Connaught. It was at about 3pm.
I went to ask the owner if there is any stall for rental. The owner said yes and the rental is RM45o per month. Without much consideration, I immediately gave him RM100 as a deposit to rent the stall. I told him I haven't decide on the date to operate the business. I will inform him when I am ready.
I was very happy to find such a good location as it is located in a commercial and banking district. So, this is the reason why I am very confident that the business will be successful.
The location turned up to be my biggest mistake. I did not spend time on surveying the area and the consumer well. I depend solely on my instinct only.
3) Customers' Spending Power And Habits
Due to too immensed with the good location in mind, I totally forgot to survey on the clientele background of the coffee shop.
So, the mistake here is that I did not spend some time in the coffee shop to survey on the customers background.
Most of the customers would prefer to eat the economic rice or chicken rice. Even if those who order food from the a la carte stall, they will be ordering fry noodles most of the time.
Due to office hours, their time for lunch is rather limited. They will go for fast, convenient and cheap food.
4) Feng Shui of the coffee shop
When I clean up the stall, I personally don't quite like the stall because of the shape of the area of the coffee shop. It is triangular in shape. I feel rather awkward when I am in the coffee shop.
5) Competitor
The owner of the coffee shop operates the economic rice, prawn noodle, hakka noodle and chee cheong fun. She rented out the stall to chicken rice stall and also a la carte stall. When I went to the coffee shop, due to too excited about the location, I did not check on the number of stalls and what they are selling there.
6) Environment
The coffee shop is actually an extension at a corner row of the shop. It looks like it is located in the corner but then if we properly look at it, it is actually located in the middle. It looks like in the corner because there is a road cutting through the row of shops.
Due to the extension, and the roof top of the coffee shop is mainly made of iron awning. the whole coffee shop is very hot and humid.
Joanne also mentioned that there is not enough lighting in the coffee shop.
7) Pricing
I am selling the fish head curry for RM15 (Small), RM25 (Medium) and RM35 (Large). As mentioned just now, the purchasing power of the consumer is low. So, I am still contemplating whether this is also one of the reason which causes my curry fish head failure.
The price is actually the one which I copied from the JB curry fish head. So, according to Joanne, the price should not be a problem.
8) Did not want to admit mistake earlier.
On the day when I went to clean up the stall, I was there from 10.30 am to about 2pm. While cleaning the stall, I started to realise that there is not a big crowd of customers in the coffee shop.
From 11am to 1pm, there is hardly any customers. The crowd will only come at about 1pm. And after 1.45pm, the crowd dispersed. It will be a very quiet business from then on.
Even I have feelings that this small crowd of customers will cause failure to my business, but I still carry on and did not want to admit this mistake.
Should I have decided there and then, I would not have started this business after all.
CONCLUSION
Even though this is a failure of my business attempt, I will and still very determine that I will try it again if the tour season is low again. I will never give up so easily on this business. Joanne and Kim Hoe told me that the main fault is the location. It is definately not the taste of the curry fish head because there are nobody trying the fish head curry at all.
Anyway, I will take it as a lesson in life and will move forward.
I will learn from these mistakes and will not repeat them. I will have a thorough research on the location once I found a new stall.
On this very first day, I only manage to get one outsider customer. The rest of it are my friends who came to support me.
On the second day, as it was Sunday, it was totally very quiet. I sell nothing the whole day.
The third day is Monday. I told myself, this is the most important day as this is actually my main aim. Very unfortunately, again throughout the day no business at all.
So, here I want to share with you one of my biggest mistakes.
1) Too Rush : Did not have proper surveying on the location
All the while I knew that a location for a business is the utmost important and I kept on telling Joanne about it. But then I am doing this business without realising it.
When I went out scouting the location for my business on the first week of July 2009, I come to this coffee shop by the name of Tasty Corner at Taman Connaught. It was at about 3pm.
I went to ask the owner if there is any stall for rental. The owner said yes and the rental is RM45o per month. Without much consideration, I immediately gave him RM100 as a deposit to rent the stall. I told him I haven't decide on the date to operate the business. I will inform him when I am ready.
I was very happy to find such a good location as it is located in a commercial and banking district. So, this is the reason why I am very confident that the business will be successful.
The location turned up to be my biggest mistake. I did not spend time on surveying the area and the consumer well. I depend solely on my instinct only.
A few days later, Taksina called me take groups. Consecutively I took 2 groups. I have planned to operate the stall on the 27th July. The last day I sent off the group was on the 24th. I have only 3 more days to start the business.
2) Poor Planning
I haven't clean the stall. I haven't buy any utensils for the business. And worst of all, I haven't even ready for the fish head curry recipe.
So, within those few days, I started to try out the fish head curry everyday. And I do the things which I need to do a step at a time.
Then I realised, I am not ready for the business yet. After discussing with Joanne, we decided to operate the business on the 1st August 2009.
So, within those few days, I tried out and improve my fish head curry recipe.
I went to look for fish head supplier. I clean up the stall and purchase what ever needed.
On the first day of running the business, early in morning, upon waking up, read the sms that my supplier could not supply me the fish head. So, I have to go to Pudu wet market to purchase the fish head.
So, I went to Pudu market to purchase the fish head and by the time I reach home, it's about 8.30am.
I haven't prepare all the herbs and spices for slicing.
Everything was in such a rush.
Due to the rush, I calculated wrongly on the ingredients for the curry. The curry is too watery and tasteless. There are so much scales on the fish head. The first day is totally in disaster.
After few days of operating of business, I realised that the location is not suitable for these few reasons:
3) Customers' Spending Power And Habits
Due to too immensed with the good location in mind, I totally forgot to survey on the clientele background of the coffee shop.
So, the mistake here is that I did not spend some time in the coffee shop to survey on the customers background.
Most of the customers would prefer to eat the economic rice or chicken rice. Even if those who order food from the a la carte stall, they will be ordering fry noodles most of the time.
Due to office hours, their time for lunch is rather limited. They will go for fast, convenient and cheap food.
4) Feng Shui of the coffee shop
When I clean up the stall, I personally don't quite like the stall because of the shape of the area of the coffee shop. It is triangular in shape. I feel rather awkward when I am in the coffee shop.
5) Competitor
The owner of the coffee shop operates the economic rice, prawn noodle, hakka noodle and chee cheong fun. She rented out the stall to chicken rice stall and also a la carte stall. When I went to the coffee shop, due to too excited about the location, I did not check on the number of stalls and what they are selling there.
6) Environment
The coffee shop is actually an extension at a corner row of the shop. It looks like it is located in the corner but then if we properly look at it, it is actually located in the middle. It looks like in the corner because there is a road cutting through the row of shops.
Due to the extension, and the roof top of the coffee shop is mainly made of iron awning. the whole coffee shop is very hot and humid.
Joanne also mentioned that there is not enough lighting in the coffee shop.
7) Pricing
I am selling the fish head curry for RM15 (Small), RM25 (Medium) and RM35 (Large). As mentioned just now, the purchasing power of the consumer is low. So, I am still contemplating whether this is also one of the reason which causes my curry fish head failure.
The price is actually the one which I copied from the JB curry fish head. So, according to Joanne, the price should not be a problem.
8) Did not want to admit mistake earlier.
On the day when I went to clean up the stall, I was there from 10.30 am to about 2pm. While cleaning the stall, I started to realise that there is not a big crowd of customers in the coffee shop.
From 11am to 1pm, there is hardly any customers. The crowd will only come at about 1pm. And after 1.45pm, the crowd dispersed. It will be a very quiet business from then on.
Even I have feelings that this small crowd of customers will cause failure to my business, but I still carry on and did not want to admit this mistake.
Should I have decided there and then, I would not have started this business after all.
CONCLUSION
Even though this is a failure of my business attempt, I will and still very determine that I will try it again if the tour season is low again. I will never give up so easily on this business. Joanne and Kim Hoe told me that the main fault is the location. It is definately not the taste of the curry fish head because there are nobody trying the fish head curry at all.
Anyway, I will take it as a lesson in life and will move forward.
I will learn from these mistakes and will not repeat them. I will have a thorough research on the location once I found a new stall.
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Feeling Proud With Dad
Today is the second day dad is spending his time with me. I promised him that I will wake up early in the morning to go for jogging with him every day. So, thats why he come over to my house to spend time with me.
When I was at the Permaisuri garden walking him, suddenly I felt so proud and happy that I can have such a golden opportunity to spend more time with dad. When I look around, I found that most of the old people are together and the young ones are together as well. I can hardly find any children bring their parents to go for morning walk. So, this really made me feel proud indeed that I can spend such a wonderful time with him.
While at the garden, I also found that its really great that I can communicate with him easily. He always wanted to share his experience with me.
In my opinion, we as the children should spend more time with our parents. Actually, I found that there are a lot of lonely old folks around.
I am very sure spending more time with our parents will definately brighten up their days more than what we spend for them on either Mother's day or Father's day.
In fact I always hope I can do more for my parents so that they will be more happier. But then I know, no matter how grown up I am, I am still a kid in their eyes.
I LOVE YOU GREATLY PA AND MA...
When I was at the Permaisuri garden walking him, suddenly I felt so proud and happy that I can have such a golden opportunity to spend more time with dad. When I look around, I found that most of the old people are together and the young ones are together as well. I can hardly find any children bring their parents to go for morning walk. So, this really made me feel proud indeed that I can spend such a wonderful time with him.
While at the garden, I also found that its really great that I can communicate with him easily. He always wanted to share his experience with me.
In my opinion, we as the children should spend more time with our parents. Actually, I found that there are a lot of lonely old folks around.
I am very sure spending more time with our parents will definately brighten up their days more than what we spend for them on either Mother's day or Father's day.
In fact I always hope I can do more for my parents so that they will be more happier. But then I know, no matter how grown up I am, I am still a kid in their eyes.
I LOVE YOU GREATLY PA AND MA...
Sunday, July 26, 2009
One Has To Learn To Love Oneself First...
One has to learn to love oneself first... Why do I come to this topic?
This is because I found that in the society, there are so many men who could not even take care of himself. If he does not know how to take care of himself, how can he take care of his loved ones?
They ended up themselves in such a mess mainly due to their uncontrollable habits and bad self management. One of the main culprit for bad self management is addicted to gamble.
In order for one to know how to take care of himself, it is important that he must have:
1) Healthy Mind And Healthy Body
2) Self Improvement
3) Good Financial Management
I found that majority of the men failed to take care of themselves in so many ways. First of all, of course, it is very important for men to have a healthy mind and a healthy body. I am saying healthy mind first because I believe that if we have healthy mind then we will have healthy body and vice versa. It is the mind which controls the body. So, if we have a healthy mind, naturally we will have a healthy body.
When I say that we must have a healthy mind, naturally it means we must know which direction we are heading to. Are we doing the right thing in our career or are we just wasting our time lazing around or just doing something which did not benefit us at all for example gambling, drinking, smoking, etc?
It has been proven that if a person keeps his mind busy, he will not only lead a better life but also prolonged his life. Successful people like Mr Lee Kuan Yew or Tun Mahathir Mohammed who are in their 80's, are still in their great health.
Mom once told me that a faithful son sends his mother to play mahjong everyday for the son wanted his mother's mind busy thinking while playing mahjong for this will prolong his mother's life.
2) Self Improvements
Nowadays, there are so many youngsters who love to indulge in gambling, clubbing, taking drugs, etc. They do not realise that they can spend so much valuable time on learning some skills or doing something which interest them which will benefit them later.
There are so many things for someone to learn if one has put in some effort and interest.
Now, I have realised, while waiting for my SPM and STPM result, my parents disagree I work outside to gain some experience. They would rather I go to learn some skill instead. Its very lucky that I listened to my mother that I went to take a typing course. Due to this, I am able to type so much faster than majority of the people.
During these school holidays, I learned my computer skills. Due to having these basic computer skills, I am more advantage than most of my classmates because I am able to surf the net for information and doing my projects by using the computer.
Even I am a grown adult, I am so proud that with this computer skill, it leads me to self study on learning the computer softwares like Words, Excel, Powerpoint and Access. I bought books to learn all these softwares myself.
Most of my friends really envy me for I know how to operate these computer softwares. I am so much at advantage for I know how to use these softwares for my personal usage.
3) Good Financial Management
Everyone wants are unlimited. So it is very important that we must know how to control on our wants. Sometimes, when we have the urge to buy something, it is wise to ask ourselves that are we buying the item out of need or wants?
Of course, we have various crave for wants. However, the financial for everyone is always limited. So, it is good that we should be able to control our wants.
I believe that if one knows how to take care of himself, then he will definately be able to take care of his parents, wife and children. He will lead a successful life.
This is because I found that in the society, there are so many men who could not even take care of himself. If he does not know how to take care of himself, how can he take care of his loved ones?
They ended up themselves in such a mess mainly due to their uncontrollable habits and bad self management. One of the main culprit for bad self management is addicted to gamble.
In order for one to know how to take care of himself, it is important that he must have:
1) Healthy Mind And Healthy Body
2) Self Improvement
3) Good Financial Management
I found that majority of the men failed to take care of themselves in so many ways. First of all, of course, it is very important for men to have a healthy mind and a healthy body. I am saying healthy mind first because I believe that if we have healthy mind then we will have healthy body and vice versa. It is the mind which controls the body. So, if we have a healthy mind, naturally we will have a healthy body.
When I say that we must have a healthy mind, naturally it means we must know which direction we are heading to. Are we doing the right thing in our career or are we just wasting our time lazing around or just doing something which did not benefit us at all for example gambling, drinking, smoking, etc?
It has been proven that if a person keeps his mind busy, he will not only lead a better life but also prolonged his life. Successful people like Mr Lee Kuan Yew or Tun Mahathir Mohammed who are in their 80's, are still in their great health.
Mom once told me that a faithful son sends his mother to play mahjong everyday for the son wanted his mother's mind busy thinking while playing mahjong for this will prolong his mother's life.
2) Self Improvements
Nowadays, there are so many youngsters who love to indulge in gambling, clubbing, taking drugs, etc. They do not realise that they can spend so much valuable time on learning some skills or doing something which interest them which will benefit them later.
There are so many things for someone to learn if one has put in some effort and interest.
Now, I have realised, while waiting for my SPM and STPM result, my parents disagree I work outside to gain some experience. They would rather I go to learn some skill instead. Its very lucky that I listened to my mother that I went to take a typing course. Due to this, I am able to type so much faster than majority of the people.
During these school holidays, I learned my computer skills. Due to having these basic computer skills, I am more advantage than most of my classmates because I am able to surf the net for information and doing my projects by using the computer.
Even I am a grown adult, I am so proud that with this computer skill, it leads me to self study on learning the computer softwares like Words, Excel, Powerpoint and Access. I bought books to learn all these softwares myself.
Most of my friends really envy me for I know how to operate these computer softwares. I am so much at advantage for I know how to use these softwares for my personal usage.
3) Good Financial Management
Everyone wants are unlimited. So it is very important that we must know how to control on our wants. Sometimes, when we have the urge to buy something, it is wise to ask ourselves that are we buying the item out of need or wants?
Of course, we have various crave for wants. However, the financial for everyone is always limited. So, it is good that we should be able to control our wants.
I believe that if one knows how to take care of himself, then he will definately be able to take care of his parents, wife and children. He will lead a successful life.
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Females Should Be The Phoenix...
My wife, Joanne, read this interesting article which she found in the China Press to me.
According to the article, before marriage, a lot of females tend to put importance on their appearance in order to attract more males.
But as time gets along, usually after marriage and having a few children, the females will no longer put importance into their appearance.
They will give all kind of excuses saying :
1) The fat due to hormonal changes after few pregnantcies.
2) No time to put on make up due to attending to house chores and children.
3) No longer emphasise on the clothings because want to help the husband to save money.
So, as time gets along, the husband will do well in his career and turns up into a dragon.
Unfortunately, the female is no longer attractive to the husband. As the husband has better income and status, the husband will feel that the wife is lagging far away in terms of attractiveness, social status, etc.
So, this is one of the reason why so many husbands tend to stray.
According to this article, it is very important for the females to be a phoenix before the husband turn into a dragon. This will prevent the husband from straying around.
According to the article, before marriage, a lot of females tend to put importance on their appearance in order to attract more males.
But as time gets along, usually after marriage and having a few children, the females will no longer put importance into their appearance.
They will give all kind of excuses saying :
1) The fat due to hormonal changes after few pregnantcies.
2) No time to put on make up due to attending to house chores and children.
3) No longer emphasise on the clothings because want to help the husband to save money.
So, as time gets along, the husband will do well in his career and turns up into a dragon.
Unfortunately, the female is no longer attractive to the husband. As the husband has better income and status, the husband will feel that the wife is lagging far away in terms of attractiveness, social status, etc.
So, this is one of the reason why so many husbands tend to stray.
According to this article, it is very important for the females to be a phoenix before the husband turn into a dragon. This will prevent the husband from straying around.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Something Special Will Always Win The Hearts of People
An inspirational encounter with a rickshaw driver in Mumbai
This article is doing its rounds on email and I thought it was ideal to put it here. This is by Mr. Suvendhu Roy of Titan Industries
Last Sunday, my wife, kid and I had to travel to Andheri from Bandra. When I waved at a passing auto rickshaw little did I expect that this ride would be any different.
As we set off, my eyes fell on a few magazines (kept in an aircraft style pouch) behind the driver’s back rest. I looked in front and there was a small TV. The driver had put on the Doordarshan channel.. My wife and I looked at each other with disbelief and amusement. In front of me was a small first-aid box with cotton, dettol and some medicines. This was enough for me to realise that I was in a special vehicle. Then I looked round again, and discovered more – there was a radio, fire extinguisher, wall clock, calendar, and pictures and symbols of all faiths – from Islam and Christianity to Buddhism, Hinduism and Sikhism. There were also pictures of the heroes of 26/11- Kamte, Salaskar, Karkare and Unnikrishnan.
I realised that not only my vehicle, but also my driver was special. I started chatting with him and the initial sense of ridicule and disbelief gradually diminished. I gathered that he had been driving an auto rickshaw for the past 8-9 years; he had lost his job when his employer’s plastic company was shut down. He had two school-going children, and he drove from 8 in the morning till 10 at night. No break unless he was unwell. “Sahab, ghar mein baith ke TV dekh kar kya faida? Do paisa income karega toh future mein kaam aayega.”
We realised that we had come across a man who represents Mumbai – the spirit of work, the spirit of travel and the spirit of excelling in life. I asked him whether he does anything else as I figured that he did not have too much spare time. He said that he goes to an old age home for women in Andheri once a week or whenever he has some extra income, where he donates toothbrushes, toothpastes, soap, hair oil, and other items of daily use. He pointed out to a painted message below the meter that read: “25 per cent discount on metered fare for the handicapped. Free rides for blind passengers up to Rs50″.
My wife and I were struck with awe. The man was a HERO! A hero who deserves all our respect. Our journey came to an end; 45 minutes of a lesson in humility, selflessness and of a hero-worshipping Mumbai-my temporary home. We disembarked, and all I could do was to pay him a tip that would hardly cover a free ride for a blind man.
I hope, one day, you too have a chance to meet Mr Sandeep Bachhe in his autorickshaw MH-02-Z-8508
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This is something we ought to learn from Mr Sandeep Bachhe.
First of all, no matter which profession we are in, it is very important that we always put in the heart to do and provide something special, be it service or product. From what Mr Sandeep did on to his rickshaw for example by providing magazines, tv, first aid box, fire extinguisher, etc. is really something extraordinaire to be learnt from.
This is what I call it as putting in the heart to do something that is by putting in the brain to be more creative to provide something special.
With a meagre income, Mr Sandeep has to work more than 12 hours a day. He did not complain but yet he has a big heart for providing special prices for the handicapped.
He is striving so hard to live but yet he still manage to donate part of his income for charity. This is something we should learn.
This article is doing its rounds on email and I thought it was ideal to put it here. This is by Mr. Suvendhu Roy of Titan Industries
Last Sunday, my wife, kid and I had to travel to Andheri from Bandra. When I waved at a passing auto rickshaw little did I expect that this ride would be any different.
As we set off, my eyes fell on a few magazines (kept in an aircraft style pouch) behind the driver’s back rest. I looked in front and there was a small TV. The driver had put on the Doordarshan channel.. My wife and I looked at each other with disbelief and amusement. In front of me was a small first-aid box with cotton, dettol and some medicines. This was enough for me to realise that I was in a special vehicle. Then I looked round again, and discovered more – there was a radio, fire extinguisher, wall clock, calendar, and pictures and symbols of all faiths – from Islam and Christianity to Buddhism, Hinduism and Sikhism. There were also pictures of the heroes of 26/11- Kamte, Salaskar, Karkare and Unnikrishnan.
I realised that not only my vehicle, but also my driver was special. I started chatting with him and the initial sense of ridicule and disbelief gradually diminished. I gathered that he had been driving an auto rickshaw for the past 8-9 years; he had lost his job when his employer’s plastic company was shut down. He had two school-going children, and he drove from 8 in the morning till 10 at night. No break unless he was unwell. “Sahab, ghar mein baith ke TV dekh kar kya faida? Do paisa income karega toh future mein kaam aayega.”
We realised that we had come across a man who represents Mumbai – the spirit of work, the spirit of travel and the spirit of excelling in life. I asked him whether he does anything else as I figured that he did not have too much spare time. He said that he goes to an old age home for women in Andheri once a week or whenever he has some extra income, where he donates toothbrushes, toothpastes, soap, hair oil, and other items of daily use. He pointed out to a painted message below the meter that read: “25 per cent discount on metered fare for the handicapped. Free rides for blind passengers up to Rs50″.
My wife and I were struck with awe. The man was a HERO! A hero who deserves all our respect. Our journey came to an end; 45 minutes of a lesson in humility, selflessness and of a hero-worshipping Mumbai-my temporary home. We disembarked, and all I could do was to pay him a tip that would hardly cover a free ride for a blind man.
I hope, one day, you too have a chance to meet Mr Sandeep Bachhe in his autorickshaw MH-02-Z-8508
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This is something we ought to learn from Mr Sandeep Bachhe.
First of all, no matter which profession we are in, it is very important that we always put in the heart to do and provide something special, be it service or product. From what Mr Sandeep did on to his rickshaw for example by providing magazines, tv, first aid box, fire extinguisher, etc. is really something extraordinaire to be learnt from.
This is what I call it as putting in the heart to do something that is by putting in the brain to be more creative to provide something special.
With a meagre income, Mr Sandeep has to work more than 12 hours a day. He did not complain but yet he has a big heart for providing special prices for the handicapped.
He is striving so hard to live but yet he still manage to donate part of his income for charity. This is something we should learn.
Monday, June 29, 2009
A Strongly Recommended Book To Read : The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
After finishing reading the book, The Secret, I decided to write in the blog about this book. This is also one of the best book which I ever read. So, I decided to write about it.
All the while, I read two books which influenced my life greatly are Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus by John Gray and also The Seven Habits of Successful People by Stephen Covey.
Ms Amanda Lai, Joanne’s boss even asked her employees to read this book. Initially I was quite reluctant to buy this book. But after for a while, I manage to buy the book. This book did not really arouse my interest. So, after buying it, I put it in the book shelf.
Of late, I started the reading habit again. After reading Dale Carnegie’s , I thought I must read The Secret.
While reading through the book, I was so greatly amazed by the content of the book. I started to practise some of the skills thought.
I was so influenced by the book that I thought I should buy the dvd as well. When I went to the bookstore, I got a shocked. The price of the book is RM135.00. Initially, I was quite reluctant to buy it as it is very expensive. But after thinking for a while, I decided to buy the dvd because I believe that the dvd can help me as much as the book.
After watching through the dvd, I found that the content of the dvd is actually the same as the book. But then I found that it is better to read to book for it is easier to understand.
From this book The Secret, I really found a lot of advantages by practising and applying what have been taught from this book.
My financial suddenly getting better and better. I was able to pay all my house and car instalments on time. I have even cleared up all my credit card and closed the credit card account. I found that while taking tour groups I started to earn more money and money comes to me easily as well.
I even started to learn and practice to meditate. I will try to meditate twice a day and for about 10 to 15 minutes a day. I found that my health is getting so much better and I even have better concentration.
As for my health, I will go to the gymnasium whenever I can find the time. Ever since I go to the gym, I have built up my confidence and stamina tremendously.
Even though all the while I was having good relationship with my wife, Joanne and my kids, after reading the book, I found that my relationship with them is even better.
Ever since practising the Secret, I really found lots of fulfilment in my life. I really felt that I am more organised and also do things which I like.
The book by The Secret by Rhonda Byrne has indeed influenced me greatly and I certainly encourage any one to read this book and get the benefits from this book.
While I was reading this book, I keep on reminding myself that I should read this book again and again till I fully understand the contents of the book. Now, I am on my way reading this book for the second time and I am also writing down the important notes from this book.
All the while, I read two books which influenced my life greatly are Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus by John Gray and also The Seven Habits of Successful People by Stephen Covey.
Ms Amanda Lai, Joanne’s boss even asked her employees to read this book. Initially I was quite reluctant to buy this book. But after for a while, I manage to buy the book. This book did not really arouse my interest. So, after buying it, I put it in the book shelf.
Of late, I started the reading habit again. After reading Dale Carnegie’s , I thought I must read The Secret.
While reading through the book, I was so greatly amazed by the content of the book. I started to practise some of the skills thought.
I was so influenced by the book that I thought I should buy the dvd as well. When I went to the bookstore, I got a shocked. The price of the book is RM135.00. Initially, I was quite reluctant to buy it as it is very expensive. But after thinking for a while, I decided to buy the dvd because I believe that the dvd can help me as much as the book.
After watching through the dvd, I found that the content of the dvd is actually the same as the book. But then I found that it is better to read to book for it is easier to understand.
From this book The Secret, I really found a lot of advantages by practising and applying what have been taught from this book.
My financial suddenly getting better and better. I was able to pay all my house and car instalments on time. I have even cleared up all my credit card and closed the credit card account. I found that while taking tour groups I started to earn more money and money comes to me easily as well.
I even started to learn and practice to meditate. I will try to meditate twice a day and for about 10 to 15 minutes a day. I found that my health is getting so much better and I even have better concentration.
As for my health, I will go to the gymnasium whenever I can find the time. Ever since I go to the gym, I have built up my confidence and stamina tremendously.
Even though all the while I was having good relationship with my wife, Joanne and my kids, after reading the book, I found that my relationship with them is even better.
Ever since practising the Secret, I really found lots of fulfilment in my life. I really felt that I am more organised and also do things which I like.
The book by The Secret by Rhonda Byrne has indeed influenced me greatly and I certainly encourage any one to read this book and get the benefits from this book.
While I was reading this book, I keep on reminding myself that I should read this book again and again till I fully understand the contents of the book. Now, I am on my way reading this book for the second time and I am also writing down the important notes from this book.
Habit of Writing And Recording Notes
During the month of May, 2009, it was a very quiet season for me due to the H1N1 crisis. Its very lucky that I was called up by Tekkee to be a translator at the Trade Ministry for the Chinese businessmen who are keen to set up business in Malaysia.
I was at the ministry and be a translator for only 1hour. Later, one of the businessman, requested me to be his driver using my car to places he wanted to go.
While I was driving him around, the Chinese man will occasionally asked questions about Malaysia. I noticed that he has a habit of writing and recording of I mentioned to him. I found that this is very good habit and tell myself that I should build up this habit on my own too.
Ever since that encounter, I will try to note down which ever I feel that is important for me.
From that day onwards, I will write reminders or any plans on the following day which I should do.
One good example of this habit is when I was trying to get the modem connection from Maxis. I was called by a guy from Maxis broadband by the name of Ang offering me the broadband service. The offer is by paying extra RM28 per month, I will be able to surf on a new line and I will also get a modem for free.
I thought this is a very good offer. Since Joanne has just bought a new notebook and she might need it. I could not asked Joanne as she was on tour. So I told And to call me back next week. After waiting for more than a week, Ang never called. I called up Maxis centre to reach to Ang. I left message for him to call back.
After waiting for another week and there is no phone call from Ang. So, I decided to write to Maxis to lodge a complaint. Immediately the next day, I received a phone call from Maxis by a gal Anusha.
I immediately note down her name and her direct phone line. She promised to deliver the modem to me in a week time but after waiting for 2 weeks finally I managed to receive the modem.
Because of writing her name, I am able to refer to her whenever I need her service for the broadband.
I was at the ministry and be a translator for only 1hour. Later, one of the businessman, requested me to be his driver using my car to places he wanted to go.
While I was driving him around, the Chinese man will occasionally asked questions about Malaysia. I noticed that he has a habit of writing and recording of I mentioned to him. I found that this is very good habit and tell myself that I should build up this habit on my own too.
Ever since that encounter, I will try to note down which ever I feel that is important for me.
From that day onwards, I will write reminders or any plans on the following day which I should do.
One good example of this habit is when I was trying to get the modem connection from Maxis. I was called by a guy from Maxis broadband by the name of Ang offering me the broadband service. The offer is by paying extra RM28 per month, I will be able to surf on a new line and I will also get a modem for free.
I thought this is a very good offer. Since Joanne has just bought a new notebook and she might need it. I could not asked Joanne as she was on tour. So I told And to call me back next week. After waiting for more than a week, Ang never called. I called up Maxis centre to reach to Ang. I left message for him to call back.
After waiting for another week and there is no phone call from Ang. So, I decided to write to Maxis to lodge a complaint. Immediately the next day, I received a phone call from Maxis by a gal Anusha.
I immediately note down her name and her direct phone line. She promised to deliver the modem to me in a week time but after waiting for 2 weeks finally I managed to receive the modem.
Because of writing her name, I am able to refer to her whenever I need her service for the broadband.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
To Love And To Cherish
Sunday January 18, 2009
Sources: The Star
To love and to cherish
SUNDAY WITH T.SELVA
The secret recipe for a happy and harmonious partnership is effective and frequent two-way communication.
LEARNING to adjust and compromise is an art of happy living because almost every moment we are faced with situations that require a give and take approach.
It is not a question of whether we like it or not but such conditions are bound to occur due to the complex and fast lifestyle most of us are involved with daily.
Fighting or challenging such situations will not take us anywhere other than to sour our relationships at home or work and resulting in developing hatred, anger, stress and tension.
Some people have a wrong notion that adjusting and compromising is a sign of weakness but it is actually not.
Instead it reflects on the individual’s wisdom, maturity and understanding of being able to see what others can’t.
Such act is in fact viewed as noble and dignified.
I write this week’s column following news from two couples from Penang who have stopped talking with their spouses owing to some differences and they are now planning to go separate ways.
This is a worrying trend because last year about 20% of registered marriages in the country ended in divorce.
No two individuals are the same and it is not unnatural to find two persons having different interests, likings, hobbies, past-times, routines and knowledge.
Owing to this, sometimes such differences may interfere with their relationship and some hiccups are bound to happen but making up quickly and emerging stronger with improved ties is vital here.
The secret recipe for a happy and harmonious partnership is exercising words like compromise and adjust, and adulation and sweetness of speech.
Removing ego and showing respect for each other is another crucial aspect to the success of a relationship.
Every relationship has to pass through good and bad times but what is important is standing by each other through tough times because such test is to strengthen the vow the couple have made to be together.
Effective and frequent two-way communication verbal or written have been found since ancient time to be the key to the success of this bonding because it helps in understanding the dynamics of each other and prevents conflicts and misunderstandings.
A good relationship depends on a combination of many things but top among them all is treating your spouse as your best friend and not taking him or her for granted just because both have made a lifelong commitment.
In a close buddy relationship, the love and affection continues to ignite and grow daily whenever they come in contact, thus leading to a healthy connection.
For instance, when a couple have something they don’t like about their partner, they should communicate it rather than just keeping it in their heart.
Of course, they should do so in a respectful way so as not to offend their partner.
People are often known to share funny stories with their life partner prior to their marriage but after the wedding, the hilarity disappears and this is not good.
Such openness and funny side of communication should apply forever because laughter is the invisible glue in a relationship.
Simple gestures of showing appreciation, having at least one meal together daily, having weekly or monthly time-out, remembering and celebrating events like birthdays, anniversaries and special events bring constant spark to a relationship.
One long-term activity that should be exercised by any couple is allocating quality time regularly for each other.
Investing time in a relationship is imperative as this exercise allows each other to discover themselves deeper for a compatible and loving association.
Trust is another ingredient because it allows both parties to feel secure and believe there is a future for their relationship.
Just like it takes two hands to clap, a good relationship involves both sides.
While one side can take initiative, it still requires the other side to make the relationship work and only by working together can this union reach its full potential.
I truly believe nobody is perfect but everyone can grow to improve and give their best but both sides must be willing to change.
Instead of blaming their partner when something goes wrong, they should look inside themselves to see if there is something they can change.
When both sides have this attitude, the relationship grows stronger and stronger.
Basically, building and maintaining a healthy marriage takes time and a lot of effort and it is a life long process.
With the day-to-day pressures of work, taking care of the children and household tasks, it can be easy to neglect to nurture our relationship and to take our mate for granted.
It is necessary to remind ourselves constantly about the importance of fostering a healthy and loving relationship which is the foundation to build a successful marriage every day.
Relationships cannot be built in a just day or two; it is a lifelong journey when two people decide to make a divine bond to be together.
■ T. Selva, The Star’s Sunday Metro editor, says that a good relationship blossoms when two people decide to share instead of trying to change each other.
Tips to build a happy relationship :
● Be willing to change.
● Be honest to your spouse.
● Avoid competition between the two of you.
● Both must complement each other.
● Avoid being possessive and selfish.
● Be kind, gentle, patient and loving.
● Keep romance alive in your marriage.
● Say sorry if you have made a mistake.
● Be supportive in whatever he or she does.
● Have integrity and this will gain honour.
● Be a good listener, pay attention and be open.
● Give surprises as it adds tonic to the romance.
● Cracking jokes helps to build cheerful relationship.
● Never bring past problems and unpleasant incidents.
● Develop compassion for your partner and yourself.
● Know the likes and dislikes to shape the relationship.
● Exercise sweetness of speech and never use harsh words.
● Treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.
● Leave little notes for him or her when you miss each other.
● Express appreciation by saying thank you even for everyday things.
● Practise forgiveness as sometimes mistakes are made unintentionally.
Sources: The Star
To love and to cherish
SUNDAY WITH T.SELVA
The secret recipe for a happy and harmonious partnership is effective and frequent two-way communication.
LEARNING to adjust and compromise is an art of happy living because almost every moment we are faced with situations that require a give and take approach.
It is not a question of whether we like it or not but such conditions are bound to occur due to the complex and fast lifestyle most of us are involved with daily.
Fighting or challenging such situations will not take us anywhere other than to sour our relationships at home or work and resulting in developing hatred, anger, stress and tension.
Some people have a wrong notion that adjusting and compromising is a sign of weakness but it is actually not.
Instead it reflects on the individual’s wisdom, maturity and understanding of being able to see what others can’t.
Such act is in fact viewed as noble and dignified.
I write this week’s column following news from two couples from Penang who have stopped talking with their spouses owing to some differences and they are now planning to go separate ways.
This is a worrying trend because last year about 20% of registered marriages in the country ended in divorce.
No two individuals are the same and it is not unnatural to find two persons having different interests, likings, hobbies, past-times, routines and knowledge.
Owing to this, sometimes such differences may interfere with their relationship and some hiccups are bound to happen but making up quickly and emerging stronger with improved ties is vital here.
The secret recipe for a happy and harmonious partnership is exercising words like compromise and adjust, and adulation and sweetness of speech.
Removing ego and showing respect for each other is another crucial aspect to the success of a relationship.
Every relationship has to pass through good and bad times but what is important is standing by each other through tough times because such test is to strengthen the vow the couple have made to be together.
Effective and frequent two-way communication verbal or written have been found since ancient time to be the key to the success of this bonding because it helps in understanding the dynamics of each other and prevents conflicts and misunderstandings.
A good relationship depends on a combination of many things but top among them all is treating your spouse as your best friend and not taking him or her for granted just because both have made a lifelong commitment.
In a close buddy relationship, the love and affection continues to ignite and grow daily whenever they come in contact, thus leading to a healthy connection.
For instance, when a couple have something they don’t like about their partner, they should communicate it rather than just keeping it in their heart.
Of course, they should do so in a respectful way so as not to offend their partner.
People are often known to share funny stories with their life partner prior to their marriage but after the wedding, the hilarity disappears and this is not good.
Such openness and funny side of communication should apply forever because laughter is the invisible glue in a relationship.
Simple gestures of showing appreciation, having at least one meal together daily, having weekly or monthly time-out, remembering and celebrating events like birthdays, anniversaries and special events bring constant spark to a relationship.
One long-term activity that should be exercised by any couple is allocating quality time regularly for each other.
Investing time in a relationship is imperative as this exercise allows each other to discover themselves deeper for a compatible and loving association.
Trust is another ingredient because it allows both parties to feel secure and believe there is a future for their relationship.
Just like it takes two hands to clap, a good relationship involves both sides.
While one side can take initiative, it still requires the other side to make the relationship work and only by working together can this union reach its full potential.
I truly believe nobody is perfect but everyone can grow to improve and give their best but both sides must be willing to change.
Instead of blaming their partner when something goes wrong, they should look inside themselves to see if there is something they can change.
When both sides have this attitude, the relationship grows stronger and stronger.
Basically, building and maintaining a healthy marriage takes time and a lot of effort and it is a life long process.
With the day-to-day pressures of work, taking care of the children and household tasks, it can be easy to neglect to nurture our relationship and to take our mate for granted.
It is necessary to remind ourselves constantly about the importance of fostering a healthy and loving relationship which is the foundation to build a successful marriage every day.
Relationships cannot be built in a just day or two; it is a lifelong journey when two people decide to make a divine bond to be together.
■ T. Selva, The Star’s Sunday Metro editor, says that a good relationship blossoms when two people decide to share instead of trying to change each other.
Tips to build a happy relationship :
● Be willing to change.
● Be honest to your spouse.
● Avoid competition between the two of you.
● Both must complement each other.
● Avoid being possessive and selfish.
● Be kind, gentle, patient and loving.
● Keep romance alive in your marriage.
● Say sorry if you have made a mistake.
● Be supportive in whatever he or she does.
● Have integrity and this will gain honour.
● Be a good listener, pay attention and be open.
● Give surprises as it adds tonic to the romance.
● Cracking jokes helps to build cheerful relationship.
● Never bring past problems and unpleasant incidents.
● Develop compassion for your partner and yourself.
● Know the likes and dislikes to shape the relationship.
● Exercise sweetness of speech and never use harsh words.
● Treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.
● Leave little notes for him or her when you miss each other.
● Express appreciation by saying thank you even for everyday things.
● Practise forgiveness as sometimes mistakes are made unintentionally.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Examination
Throughout my school life, I have never really been serious studying till when I am in my college life.
I still remember when I had 5A's for my std 5 exam, my dad was so happy that he is so proud to tell every customer who buy things from the shop. But too bad that I was too small then to understand why dad is so proud of me.
Then when I was in Form 3, I did quite well with my SRP by obtaining 4A's and able to go into Science1 stream. By this time dad isn't too proud of me.
When I was in Form 5, my SPM result is just average but I still manage to obtain aggregate 19 (Grade 1). By this time again dad just said I should have done better. Due to my poor performance in Science subjects, I was enrolled into Arts stream when I was in Form 6.
Parents been very supportive of me when it comes to studies. As long as I am willing to study, they are always willing to fork out the money to support me.
Through dad's friends recommendation, I was encouraged to do my A level at the Goon's institute rather than to study Form 6. So, I went to Petaling Jaya to do my A level.
Unfortunately at the Goon institute, the lecturers keep on changing. Feeling frustrated, I told my parents about it. They asked me if I wanted to come back to study Form 6. So, I went back again to study Form 6.
When studying Form 6, I was struggling with accounts. All the while I have been very poor with this subject. Worst is that the teacher who taught this subject is a real boring person. So, I totally let go this subject.
All the while during my secondary school days, I used to burn midnite oil when exam is approaching. I still remember that I used only 7 weeks to prepare for my SRP. As for SPM, I used 2 months to prepare for it.
When I said I prepare for the examination, I am very serious about it. I do not watch any TV programs at all nor do I go out to enjoy myself. I totally immerse myself in studying except for food, bath or going to the toilet.
But when I was in my Upper 6, even though I know I must use at least 3 months to prepare for the examination, I do not know why I always feel panic and do not know what to do. I just can't concentrate on my examination. Finally, I do not do well in my STPM.
Parents are very very disappointed with my STPM result. I was too shameful to produce my result to them. The moment I gave the result slip to my parents, I can see how disappointed in their face. I felt so bad that I do not know how to face them.
However, parents been supportive all the while. Through newspaper advertisement, I come across a new college for the hotel management course. I enrolled to the 4 year degree hotel management course.
When studying for the hotel course, I was always determined and keep on telling myself I should not disappoint my parents just like the STPM. So, I really keep track of all my subjects, doing all my assignments and update information for the course.
Whenever there is an examination, I will always try my very best to have the best result in any subjects. During any examinations, it is always either Stephanie or myself will have the best result.
And finally when it comes to the real final exam, I was fully prepared for it. I did very well for the exam with an honorable degree for it.
When the day comes on the announcement of the result, I was announced the best student. I was so happy that tears automatically flow down. I have never been such happy before that tears flow from my eyes. This is the very first time. And its very difficult to explain the happiness that I had. I keep on telling myself its really worth the effort throughout my 3 years for the course.
When studying for the hotel management course, one of my lecturer introduced to me the mind mapping technique by Lawrence Walter. I was amazed by the technique that I can study easily and remember facts easily as well.
So, as for examination, it is very important that we use the right technique to study. The best book for remembering facts and figures is by Tony Buzan. In fact, he is the creator of the mind mapping. He intoduces the usage of the left and right brain. With his technique, one can study easily.
During the SARS period where I was unemployed for nearly 3 months. This is the time I was introduced by my former Sunshine travel agent boss to take up the train the trainer course for Tony Buzan's memory course.
The Tony Buzan's memory course has the mind mapping, photographic memory, face and names memory, number memory and also how to remember poker cards.
By studying this course, it will definately help oneself in studies.
I still remember when I had 5A's for my std 5 exam, my dad was so happy that he is so proud to tell every customer who buy things from the shop. But too bad that I was too small then to understand why dad is so proud of me.
Then when I was in Form 3, I did quite well with my SRP by obtaining 4A's and able to go into Science1 stream. By this time dad isn't too proud of me.
When I was in Form 5, my SPM result is just average but I still manage to obtain aggregate 19 (Grade 1). By this time again dad just said I should have done better. Due to my poor performance in Science subjects, I was enrolled into Arts stream when I was in Form 6.
Parents been very supportive of me when it comes to studies. As long as I am willing to study, they are always willing to fork out the money to support me.
Through dad's friends recommendation, I was encouraged to do my A level at the Goon's institute rather than to study Form 6. So, I went to Petaling Jaya to do my A level.
Unfortunately at the Goon institute, the lecturers keep on changing. Feeling frustrated, I told my parents about it. They asked me if I wanted to come back to study Form 6. So, I went back again to study Form 6.
When studying Form 6, I was struggling with accounts. All the while I have been very poor with this subject. Worst is that the teacher who taught this subject is a real boring person. So, I totally let go this subject.
All the while during my secondary school days, I used to burn midnite oil when exam is approaching. I still remember that I used only 7 weeks to prepare for my SRP. As for SPM, I used 2 months to prepare for it.
When I said I prepare for the examination, I am very serious about it. I do not watch any TV programs at all nor do I go out to enjoy myself. I totally immerse myself in studying except for food, bath or going to the toilet.
But when I was in my Upper 6, even though I know I must use at least 3 months to prepare for the examination, I do not know why I always feel panic and do not know what to do. I just can't concentrate on my examination. Finally, I do not do well in my STPM.
Parents are very very disappointed with my STPM result. I was too shameful to produce my result to them. The moment I gave the result slip to my parents, I can see how disappointed in their face. I felt so bad that I do not know how to face them.
However, parents been supportive all the while. Through newspaper advertisement, I come across a new college for the hotel management course. I enrolled to the 4 year degree hotel management course.
When studying for the hotel course, I was always determined and keep on telling myself I should not disappoint my parents just like the STPM. So, I really keep track of all my subjects, doing all my assignments and update information for the course.
Whenever there is an examination, I will always try my very best to have the best result in any subjects. During any examinations, it is always either Stephanie or myself will have the best result.
And finally when it comes to the real final exam, I was fully prepared for it. I did very well for the exam with an honorable degree for it.
When the day comes on the announcement of the result, I was announced the best student. I was so happy that tears automatically flow down. I have never been such happy before that tears flow from my eyes. This is the very first time. And its very difficult to explain the happiness that I had. I keep on telling myself its really worth the effort throughout my 3 years for the course.
When studying for the hotel management course, one of my lecturer introduced to me the mind mapping technique by Lawrence Walter. I was amazed by the technique that I can study easily and remember facts easily as well.
So, as for examination, it is very important that we use the right technique to study. The best book for remembering facts and figures is by Tony Buzan. In fact, he is the creator of the mind mapping. He intoduces the usage of the left and right brain. With his technique, one can study easily.
During the SARS period where I was unemployed for nearly 3 months. This is the time I was introduced by my former Sunshine travel agent boss to take up the train the trainer course for Tony Buzan's memory course.
The Tony Buzan's memory course has the mind mapping, photographic memory, face and names memory, number memory and also how to remember poker cards.
By studying this course, it will definately help oneself in studies.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Treasure Life...
While I was taking a group of China tourists in Genting Highlands on the 1st October 2008, I met up with Sharon Chua. She told me that Alvin Ng's eldest son met with accident and was in coma.
The moment I heard about it, my body trembles. Why such a bad thing happen to Alvin's son?
I have a family and of course I understand well how Alvin's feeling is. I still remember after we celebrated Christmas 2007, and while ordering for supper, suddenly I recieved a phone call from my mom-in-law. She told us that Jia Chen is having a very high fever and saying that the floor can turn around.
Upon hearing this, we immediately rush back home. While driving back home, Joanne and I did not even speak a word. I am dead worried about Jia Chen because I am very sure it must be a real serious condition, or else my mom-in-law won't call us. I believe Joanne is in the same situation as I am really worry and praying for the safety of Jia Chen.
Upon reaching home, we immediately brought Jia Chen to visit the Pantai specialist centre. And its a real luck that Jia Chen is all right.
So, as a dad I can really feel and understand how Alvin gone through.
Very unfortunately, a week past and the worst news came that Alvin's son past away.
We went for his funeral from the first day. While we were there, I saw Alvin was crying. I immediately feel the trauma Alvin gone through. Its a very rare situation that you will be able to see a man guy like Alvin to cry openly. This really show how sad Alvin is.
We even went for the sent off to the colabarium and the next day we went for the ashes collection to be sent off to the Nilai memorial. Its a real bad situation to see every one in a sombre mood and tears keep on flowing.
At this time, I told Joanne that Alvin will know who his real friend is. True enough that those friends who have been helping around during the funeral till the very last day is true friend indeed.
Alvin's son dead because of motorbike accident at the age of 18.
I still remember very clearly when I was a teenager I was full of bravery and do not know what danger means.
There was once when I was only 15, and I did not even have the motor license, I borrowed 2nd uncle's motor to roam around. I don't really know the mechanical operation of the motor. I accidently pulled the oil too much and stepped on gear one. The motorbike immediately pick up and the front of motorbike flew up. Everyone there was screaming. Luckily I had a good control of the motorbike and nothing happen.
The second incident which I remember very clearly is that when I newly got the license and the new motorbike which was bought by dad. It was at night and I was on my way going back from town to home in Melaka. I was speeding. I want to overtake one of the cars. (At that time the Jalan Mata Kuching is not a highway) So, I just overtake but without changing the gear. (I do not really know that I must change the gear to a lower gear so that the motorbike will pick up better and faster). So, on the opposite side there is a car coming. Luckily that the car slowed down to let me undertake it and nothing happen. It is a real missed for me and that is why till this day I can remember it very clearly.
After I had my motorbike, I used to lie to parents that I will take a bus to KL. Out of bravery and adventurous, I rode the motorbike to KL instead. The reason why I rode to KL is because I love to be adventurous and also to learn the routes in KL.
There was once, while riding my motorbike to KL, suddenly the front tyre puntured. I was speeding at that time. I immediately slowed down and had a hard time controlling my motorbike. My motorbike was swerving like a snake. I was so lucky that I am able to control of the motorbike and there was no vehicle at that time. Or else, I will be in a very bad situation.
Due to this incident, from that day onwards, I dare not to ride motorbike to KL anymore.
So, from here, we should treasure our life greatly. Its during the teenage life that we have more bravery and adventurous than anyone. But please, remember, every move that you take always consider the loved ones around you will be worrying about you.
Don't let your loved ones grieved for you like Alvin's case. Please treasure life...
The moment I heard about it, my body trembles. Why such a bad thing happen to Alvin's son?
I have a family and of course I understand well how Alvin's feeling is. I still remember after we celebrated Christmas 2007, and while ordering for supper, suddenly I recieved a phone call from my mom-in-law. She told us that Jia Chen is having a very high fever and saying that the floor can turn around.
Upon hearing this, we immediately rush back home. While driving back home, Joanne and I did not even speak a word. I am dead worried about Jia Chen because I am very sure it must be a real serious condition, or else my mom-in-law won't call us. I believe Joanne is in the same situation as I am really worry and praying for the safety of Jia Chen.
Upon reaching home, we immediately brought Jia Chen to visit the Pantai specialist centre. And its a real luck that Jia Chen is all right.
So, as a dad I can really feel and understand how Alvin gone through.
Very unfortunately, a week past and the worst news came that Alvin's son past away.
We went for his funeral from the first day. While we were there, I saw Alvin was crying. I immediately feel the trauma Alvin gone through. Its a very rare situation that you will be able to see a man guy like Alvin to cry openly. This really show how sad Alvin is.
We even went for the sent off to the colabarium and the next day we went for the ashes collection to be sent off to the Nilai memorial. Its a real bad situation to see every one in a sombre mood and tears keep on flowing.
At this time, I told Joanne that Alvin will know who his real friend is. True enough that those friends who have been helping around during the funeral till the very last day is true friend indeed.
Alvin's son dead because of motorbike accident at the age of 18.
I still remember very clearly when I was a teenager I was full of bravery and do not know what danger means.
There was once when I was only 15, and I did not even have the motor license, I borrowed 2nd uncle's motor to roam around. I don't really know the mechanical operation of the motor. I accidently pulled the oil too much and stepped on gear one. The motorbike immediately pick up and the front of motorbike flew up. Everyone there was screaming. Luckily I had a good control of the motorbike and nothing happen.
The second incident which I remember very clearly is that when I newly got the license and the new motorbike which was bought by dad. It was at night and I was on my way going back from town to home in Melaka. I was speeding. I want to overtake one of the cars. (At that time the Jalan Mata Kuching is not a highway) So, I just overtake but without changing the gear. (I do not really know that I must change the gear to a lower gear so that the motorbike will pick up better and faster). So, on the opposite side there is a car coming. Luckily that the car slowed down to let me undertake it and nothing happen. It is a real missed for me and that is why till this day I can remember it very clearly.
After I had my motorbike, I used to lie to parents that I will take a bus to KL. Out of bravery and adventurous, I rode the motorbike to KL instead. The reason why I rode to KL is because I love to be adventurous and also to learn the routes in KL.
There was once, while riding my motorbike to KL, suddenly the front tyre puntured. I was speeding at that time. I immediately slowed down and had a hard time controlling my motorbike. My motorbike was swerving like a snake. I was so lucky that I am able to control of the motorbike and there was no vehicle at that time. Or else, I will be in a very bad situation.
Due to this incident, from that day onwards, I dare not to ride motorbike to KL anymore.
So, from here, we should treasure our life greatly. Its during the teenage life that we have more bravery and adventurous than anyone. But please, remember, every move that you take always consider the loved ones around you will be worrying about you.
Don't let your loved ones grieved for you like Alvin's case. Please treasure life...
Monday, September 22, 2008
Buying Car
Three years ago... when my previous car, the Proton Waja WJA 8262 is in bad condition, I decided to buy a new car.
I don't have much experience when it comes to personal car as I was lucky because ever since I was 18, my dad bought a car and I am the main driver of the car, the Ford Telstar MR6882. Its the family car and hence I am the family driver.
So, I have been driving the Ford until it is totally in very, very bad condition that I decided to get a new car. So, that is how I bought the Proton Waja.
I have used the Proton Waja for about 5 years. The Waja started to give me trouble. So, I decided its time for me to get a new car.
Why do I decide to buy a new car? This was because through my experience with the Ford. Dad bought the Ford. We have been using it as a family car. Dad really took good care of the Ford and the Ford is always in tip top condition.
Because of its good condition, we never think of selling off the Ford. Only after using the Ford for about 12 years, the car started to give us trouble. By the time, it was already too late for us to sell off the Ford because it has no more value. So, that is how I decided to buy the Proton Waja.
The Ford is still being used till today by Leong. I decided to give it to Leong since I have the new Waja.
So... because of the bad experience with the Ford, I was thinking a car is after all a car. The value will depreciate some way some how. It is always good to have a new car not more than 5 years because usually after 5 years the car will start to give all kind of problem. That is how I decided to sell off the Waja and get a new car.
But then which car to buy?
I have made a few visits to a few car show rooms. Finally, myself and Joanne decided to buy the Naza Ria.
The reason I buy the Naza Ria is because it is a MPV which can accomodates 7 people. And best of all it has a television set which I thought will be very good for Jia Chen. So, without thinking much I bought the Naza Ria for RM109 000.
At the initial stage of using the Naza Ria, I was very happy with the condition of the Naza Ria. It is very stable and very comfortable for driving. The only slack of the car is that the car consumed quite a lot of petrol. But then I was thinking, after all I don't drive much and the price of petrol is affordable, so it is still all right.
But after 2 years of using the Naza Ria, suddenly there is this world petrol crisis. The price of the petroluem increased tremendously. So, this is when I started to regret buying this car. So, I decided to sell off this car.
When I wanted to sell off the car, I got the shocked of my life. The salesman quote me only RM60 000 for the car. This means that the car value has depreciated near to 50%. I felt very angry. I wanted to dispose of this car but I cant now because if I sell off the car at RM60 000, I will need to fork out more money to pay to the bank. This is because the car loan is more than the selling price.
So, I have no choice but to keep the Naza Ria as it is right up till today. I really regret very much for not survey much when buying the car. So here is my advice when buying a car.
First of all it is very important to buy a reliable brand and economical petrol consuming car. Just like Joanne's current car, the Toyota Vios. I felt that she made a very wise decision to buy this car because this car is very save on petrol consumtion and best of all it is from a very reliable brand Toyota.
As from what I know and heard, almost every Korean car consumes a lot of petrol. Worst still is that the Korean car has no second hand value.
Please remember that if ever consider to buy a national car, never ever buy a brand new model. I had my problem with the Waja because it is a brand new model. The Gen 2 also gave a lot of people a lot of trouble. Kim Hoe also had a lot trouble with his Perodua Viva which is a brand new model in the market. Generally, Malaysia national car new model in the market always giving the consumer a lot of troubles.
If I have the choice again to buy a car, I will buy a car which is accomodative enough and also economical in petrol consumption. So, currently best choice is to buy the Perodua Myvi.
But then, I have no choice and got stuck with the Naza Ria. I cant sell off the car as it has no market value at all. The petrol consumtion of the car is really killing. I have only regrets for I cant buy another car due to the loan as well.
So, my another advise is that when comes to buy a car, buy the one which is affordable and save in petrol consumption. Never think of big car as to show off. Never buy big cars as the depreciation value is too great. It is better to invest in buying a house rather than buying a big car.
Remember.. house is always an asset. House will never depreciate in value. So, when it comes to buy property, buy big house but buy small car.
I don't have much experience when it comes to personal car as I was lucky because ever since I was 18, my dad bought a car and I am the main driver of the car, the Ford Telstar MR6882. Its the family car and hence I am the family driver.
So, I have been driving the Ford until it is totally in very, very bad condition that I decided to get a new car. So, that is how I bought the Proton Waja.
I have used the Proton Waja for about 5 years. The Waja started to give me trouble. So, I decided its time for me to get a new car.
Why do I decide to buy a new car? This was because through my experience with the Ford. Dad bought the Ford. We have been using it as a family car. Dad really took good care of the Ford and the Ford is always in tip top condition.
Because of its good condition, we never think of selling off the Ford. Only after using the Ford for about 12 years, the car started to give us trouble. By the time, it was already too late for us to sell off the Ford because it has no more value. So, that is how I decided to buy the Proton Waja.
The Ford is still being used till today by Leong. I decided to give it to Leong since I have the new Waja.
So... because of the bad experience with the Ford, I was thinking a car is after all a car. The value will depreciate some way some how. It is always good to have a new car not more than 5 years because usually after 5 years the car will start to give all kind of problem. That is how I decided to sell off the Waja and get a new car.
But then which car to buy?
I have made a few visits to a few car show rooms. Finally, myself and Joanne decided to buy the Naza Ria.
The reason I buy the Naza Ria is because it is a MPV which can accomodates 7 people. And best of all it has a television set which I thought will be very good for Jia Chen. So, without thinking much I bought the Naza Ria for RM109 000.
At the initial stage of using the Naza Ria, I was very happy with the condition of the Naza Ria. It is very stable and very comfortable for driving. The only slack of the car is that the car consumed quite a lot of petrol. But then I was thinking, after all I don't drive much and the price of petrol is affordable, so it is still all right.
But after 2 years of using the Naza Ria, suddenly there is this world petrol crisis. The price of the petroluem increased tremendously. So, this is when I started to regret buying this car. So, I decided to sell off this car.
When I wanted to sell off the car, I got the shocked of my life. The salesman quote me only RM60 000 for the car. This means that the car value has depreciated near to 50%. I felt very angry. I wanted to dispose of this car but I cant now because if I sell off the car at RM60 000, I will need to fork out more money to pay to the bank. This is because the car loan is more than the selling price.
So, I have no choice but to keep the Naza Ria as it is right up till today. I really regret very much for not survey much when buying the car. So here is my advice when buying a car.
First of all it is very important to buy a reliable brand and economical petrol consuming car. Just like Joanne's current car, the Toyota Vios. I felt that she made a very wise decision to buy this car because this car is very save on petrol consumtion and best of all it is from a very reliable brand Toyota.
As from what I know and heard, almost every Korean car consumes a lot of petrol. Worst still is that the Korean car has no second hand value.
Please remember that if ever consider to buy a national car, never ever buy a brand new model. I had my problem with the Waja because it is a brand new model. The Gen 2 also gave a lot of people a lot of trouble. Kim Hoe also had a lot trouble with his Perodua Viva which is a brand new model in the market. Generally, Malaysia national car new model in the market always giving the consumer a lot of troubles.
If I have the choice again to buy a car, I will buy a car which is accomodative enough and also economical in petrol consumption. So, currently best choice is to buy the Perodua Myvi.
But then, I have no choice and got stuck with the Naza Ria. I cant sell off the car as it has no market value at all. The petrol consumtion of the car is really killing. I have only regrets for I cant buy another car due to the loan as well.
So, my another advise is that when comes to buy a car, buy the one which is affordable and save in petrol consumption. Never think of big car as to show off. Never buy big cars as the depreciation value is too great. It is better to invest in buying a house rather than buying a big car.
Remember.. house is always an asset. House will never depreciate in value. So, when it comes to buy property, buy big house but buy small car.
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
The Life Partner ( Wife or Husband )
Last week, Kim Yeong ( bro-in-lw ) came back to stay with us.
I came to know that he ran away from his wife and her family. It seems that his wife and family have been pestering him to buy a new 3 storey house together with them. They wanted to have 3 names (owner) for the house, namely Kim Yeong, his brother-in-law and his sister-in-law.
Kim Yeong felt very angry and disappointed because he has been very supportive of his wife's family. Almost every expenses of the family borned by him.
But of late his wife been pestering him to purchase the new house together with her family members, this is when Kim Yeong felt the full stop for everything.
Kim Yeong was saying, even the family's car, proton saga monthly installment has to be paid by Kim Yeong. What if after purchasing the new house and he has to pay everything for the new house.
Feeling overly pressured, Kim Yeong decided to leave his wife and child behind and come back to stay with his mother.
When I came to know about Kim Yeong story, I did not pity much on him. Why? Because when he was staying with me, I have been advised him so much about family matters.
I have told him and shared with him about my previous marrage. Now, he certainly agreed with me that when a man marries, its no longer about the man and his wife but also about both family together.
Kim Yeong's situation is very much like my situation on my previous marriage.
Initially when I was with Ching ( ex-wife ), we still get along well because she agreed and understood how her parents are.
Her father thought by giving me the bakery business means that giving me the golden bowl. Almost every expenses he incurred, has to be borned by me. Even when he drove to KL or Genting Highlands, the meals, the petrol, charges for car services have to borne by me. Even his daily 3 meals eating out will be claimed.
When he has his relatives from KL visiting him in Ipoh, he will bring them out for sumtious dinner. There he will pay for everything. But upon reaching home, his hand will be taken out to get money from me.
I felt very angry with the in laws. But I still can work out the marriage is because Ching still support me and against her parents as well.
Thinking of what her parents did, I thought the best way is to bring my whole family together with me in Ipoh. So, my parents and younger brother shifted to Ipoh. But, my in laws never gave in and are always demanding.
When dad shifted in not long, dad quarrelled with Ching. I can understand this because I knew dad has bad temper just like Ching.
Ching basically cant get along with anyone with my family member as well. She even dislike my brother, Leong.
I told myself, the only person who has the best temper is mom. If mom also could not tolerate with Ching, this is the time when I should put a full stop to my marriage.
True enough, one day, mom also explode with Ching. That is the time when I know the end of my marriage.
When we look for our life partner, it is very important that we should always put into the consideration of both parties family members and relationship as well.
The way they interact, their financial status will some how affect us and we can know whats our position when we are married.
So, it is very important to choose our life partner wisely.
I came to know that he ran away from his wife and her family. It seems that his wife and family have been pestering him to buy a new 3 storey house together with them. They wanted to have 3 names (owner) for the house, namely Kim Yeong, his brother-in-law and his sister-in-law.
Kim Yeong felt very angry and disappointed because he has been very supportive of his wife's family. Almost every expenses of the family borned by him.
But of late his wife been pestering him to purchase the new house together with her family members, this is when Kim Yeong felt the full stop for everything.
Kim Yeong was saying, even the family's car, proton saga monthly installment has to be paid by Kim Yeong. What if after purchasing the new house and he has to pay everything for the new house.
Feeling overly pressured, Kim Yeong decided to leave his wife and child behind and come back to stay with his mother.
When I came to know about Kim Yeong story, I did not pity much on him. Why? Because when he was staying with me, I have been advised him so much about family matters.
I have told him and shared with him about my previous marrage. Now, he certainly agreed with me that when a man marries, its no longer about the man and his wife but also about both family together.
Kim Yeong's situation is very much like my situation on my previous marriage.
Initially when I was with Ching ( ex-wife ), we still get along well because she agreed and understood how her parents are.
Her father thought by giving me the bakery business means that giving me the golden bowl. Almost every expenses he incurred, has to be borned by me. Even when he drove to KL or Genting Highlands, the meals, the petrol, charges for car services have to borne by me. Even his daily 3 meals eating out will be claimed.
When he has his relatives from KL visiting him in Ipoh, he will bring them out for sumtious dinner. There he will pay for everything. But upon reaching home, his hand will be taken out to get money from me.
I felt very angry with the in laws. But I still can work out the marriage is because Ching still support me and against her parents as well.
Thinking of what her parents did, I thought the best way is to bring my whole family together with me in Ipoh. So, my parents and younger brother shifted to Ipoh. But, my in laws never gave in and are always demanding.
When dad shifted in not long, dad quarrelled with Ching. I can understand this because I knew dad has bad temper just like Ching.
Ching basically cant get along with anyone with my family member as well. She even dislike my brother, Leong.
I told myself, the only person who has the best temper is mom. If mom also could not tolerate with Ching, this is the time when I should put a full stop to my marriage.
True enough, one day, mom also explode with Ching. That is the time when I know the end of my marriage.
When we look for our life partner, it is very important that we should always put into the consideration of both parties family members and relationship as well.
The way they interact, their financial status will some how affect us and we can know whats our position when we are married.
So, it is very important to choose our life partner wisely.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Friends
Ever since I am at very young age, I can easily get friends and befriended anyone.
The inner behaviour in me which is very strong... did not like to hurt or disrespect anyone in any way perhaps earned me many friends. Well... At times I really feel this is disadvantage as well. Cos I do not know how to turn down people politely. Any way, I learn as I grow up to say no to my friends.
Friends... Please take note: Friends can be of great help and also can be our worst enemy and disaster in life...
When I was at my teenage life, practically I have friends everywhere. Who is good and bad, I don't really know how to differentiate them. To me at that time, those who hurt my feelings are the bad ones. But very few of these friends will show their true colour.
At the age of 14, I started to learn how to socialise around. I mixed with few groups of friends. I even mix with friends who are not from my school that is my cousin, Kee. So lucky that mom has always been against me getting close to this friend. Mom told Ms Devi (my tuition teacher) to made me realise on her worries about me and the people I mix with.
I felt so lucky that Ms Devi managed to make me realised how much my parents love me and from that time onwards I did not mix with Kee. Mom is very right. Kee ended up becoming a drug addict and went to prison a few times. So do Kee's friends. Majority of them became drug addicts as well.
By right from here I should learn my lesson well but then I just learned that not to mix with the wrong party. I still do not know what are the harms that friends might do on us.
When I was in my college life, as usual I mix freely with friends. I still remember at one time when I was with few friends walking along Bunga Raya Road in Melaka, I was waiving practically non stop to people. My friends even noticed this and even said I was waiving to so many people from the beginning of the road till the end of the road. That shows how popular and friendly I was.
Finally, it is when at my college life that I learned my lesson well from my classmate, Meng Kiat. At one he was my room mate. I spent so much on him as he is not from a well to do family till he took things for granted out of me. From him, I learnt my lessons well.
From that time onwards, I really learnt my lessons well. Even though I still mix and be friendly with people, I choose my friends carefully.
When I was having my bakery business in Ipoh and Butterworth, I basically do not have any close friends at all through my college lessons.
After divorce, when I am in the tourism industry, again I felt the importance of friends.
It is Chee who helped me back into the tourism industry. And during my guiding life, I come across few friends who are very sincere and helpful. I started to treat Kong, Sam and Thum as very close friends like brothers.
It is very well important that the people we mix with should be the creme de la creme: Meaning to say that if the people that we mix are of top quality, generally we will be one of the top as well.
However, if we are not careful, the friends that we mix with are gamblers, generally we will become gamblers. Please note that friends tend to mould us into what we are as well indirectly without us realising it.
Of course there are just too many bad incidents and experiences that I am very careful with my friends. I always when we have more friends, they are more harmful then useful. Mom has always reminded me this from time to time.
I have few very lucky moments that through friends help that I go through my hardships.
Sam lend me the money so that I have my deposit money to buy this house I call home.
Kong entertain me and accompanying me when I was so down when I broke up with my girlfriend.
Thum helped me when I was really down at my job. He voluntarily allowed me to follow him during his tours. He made me wake up and well aware on how to earn money again.
So, friends could be very helpful. Friends could be very harmful as well. The power is in our hand to choose our own friends. Be smart in choosing friends and they will help you in a lot of ways...
The inner behaviour in me which is very strong... did not like to hurt or disrespect anyone in any way perhaps earned me many friends. Well... At times I really feel this is disadvantage as well. Cos I do not know how to turn down people politely. Any way, I learn as I grow up to say no to my friends.
Friends... Please take note: Friends can be of great help and also can be our worst enemy and disaster in life...
When I was at my teenage life, practically I have friends everywhere. Who is good and bad, I don't really know how to differentiate them. To me at that time, those who hurt my feelings are the bad ones. But very few of these friends will show their true colour.
At the age of 14, I started to learn how to socialise around. I mixed with few groups of friends. I even mix with friends who are not from my school that is my cousin, Kee. So lucky that mom has always been against me getting close to this friend. Mom told Ms Devi (my tuition teacher) to made me realise on her worries about me and the people I mix with.
I felt so lucky that Ms Devi managed to make me realised how much my parents love me and from that time onwards I did not mix with Kee. Mom is very right. Kee ended up becoming a drug addict and went to prison a few times. So do Kee's friends. Majority of them became drug addicts as well.
By right from here I should learn my lesson well but then I just learned that not to mix with the wrong party. I still do not know what are the harms that friends might do on us.
When I was in my college life, as usual I mix freely with friends. I still remember at one time when I was with few friends walking along Bunga Raya Road in Melaka, I was waiving practically non stop to people. My friends even noticed this and even said I was waiving to so many people from the beginning of the road till the end of the road. That shows how popular and friendly I was.
Finally, it is when at my college life that I learned my lesson well from my classmate, Meng Kiat. At one he was my room mate. I spent so much on him as he is not from a well to do family till he took things for granted out of me. From him, I learnt my lessons well.
From that time onwards, I really learnt my lessons well. Even though I still mix and be friendly with people, I choose my friends carefully.
When I was having my bakery business in Ipoh and Butterworth, I basically do not have any close friends at all through my college lessons.
After divorce, when I am in the tourism industry, again I felt the importance of friends.
It is Chee who helped me back into the tourism industry. And during my guiding life, I come across few friends who are very sincere and helpful. I started to treat Kong, Sam and Thum as very close friends like brothers.
It is very well important that the people we mix with should be the creme de la creme: Meaning to say that if the people that we mix are of top quality, generally we will be one of the top as well.
However, if we are not careful, the friends that we mix with are gamblers, generally we will become gamblers. Please note that friends tend to mould us into what we are as well indirectly without us realising it.
Of course there are just too many bad incidents and experiences that I am very careful with my friends. I always when we have more friends, they are more harmful then useful. Mom has always reminded me this from time to time.
I have few very lucky moments that through friends help that I go through my hardships.
Sam lend me the money so that I have my deposit money to buy this house I call home.
Kong entertain me and accompanying me when I was so down when I broke up with my girlfriend.
Thum helped me when I was really down at my job. He voluntarily allowed me to follow him during his tours. He made me wake up and well aware on how to earn money again.
So, friends could be very helpful. Friends could be very harmful as well. The power is in our hand to choose our own friends. Be smart in choosing friends and they will help you in a lot of ways...
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Using Heart And Brain... Recipe For Success
Formerly when I was drinking with Thum most of the time, he used to say we must use our heart when taking the tours. I don't really know what it means till one day I follow his tours.
By using our heart means we will go all the way, work real heart, with full of sincerity, little minor things also we will becareful.
It is very important that no matter which work we do, we use our heart to give it all the way so that we can be very successful.
When I was in the bakery line, I remember from time to time I will invent new cake. Even though when the cake appeared all right, but by the time I put the cake into my mouth, if it doesn't give me the ooomph that I have the urge to go for another bite, then I won't put the cake to the market for sale.
I will keep on trying improving on the flavour of the cake... no matter how long it takes, just like the ma lai koh. It proved to be one of the best among the bakers and now most of the people will go for it.
Not only that when use our heart in our work, it is also very important that we put some time to sit down to think. This is a very, very crucial period.
There are many unsolved problems or inspirations come in when we are able to sit down to think. (using the brain)
It is really a magical thing when we are spending at times only 5 yo 10 minutes on what we are doing.
Of course, in order for us to be successful, there are still very much more important factors. But I always believe we must put in our full effort (heart) and brain.
By using our heart means we will go all the way, work real heart, with full of sincerity, little minor things also we will becareful.
It is very important that no matter which work we do, we use our heart to give it all the way so that we can be very successful.
When I was in the bakery line, I remember from time to time I will invent new cake. Even though when the cake appeared all right, but by the time I put the cake into my mouth, if it doesn't give me the ooomph that I have the urge to go for another bite, then I won't put the cake to the market for sale.
I will keep on trying improving on the flavour of the cake... no matter how long it takes, just like the ma lai koh. It proved to be one of the best among the bakers and now most of the people will go for it.
Not only that when use our heart in our work, it is also very important that we put some time to sit down to think. This is a very, very crucial period.
There are many unsolved problems or inspirations come in when we are able to sit down to think. (using the brain)
It is really a magical thing when we are spending at times only 5 yo 10 minutes on what we are doing.
Of course, in order for us to be successful, there are still very much more important factors. But I always believe we must put in our full effort (heart) and brain.
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Lessons We Don't Learn In School
There are actually 2 important aspects that the schools do not teach us. They are:
1) How we can manage our financial
2) Relationships In the Family
So here, I would like to share my opinion on both topics.
The first one, how we can manage our financial. Since schooling, we are always told by the elders that we must know how to save. But then its just in and out of the ears only cos we are only kids at that time.
Well, how many parents actually do encourage their kids to save money? When I was in primary and secondary, my pocket money for food is given daily by my parents. Basically, I will finish all the money for food. Because dad operates a sundry shop, I am never short of any thing. When I need to replenish any thing for my stationery, etc. I just take it from the shop. In short, I never know and learn about money and how hard it is to earn money.
Only when I am out in the working world only I realised how important it is to learn how to save.
Even when I am at working field, no matter how much I earned, I still find it hard to save money. Mostly I will over spend my money and thats the reason why I have terrible debts with the credit card.
Always remember, credit card is only for convenience. Never take for granted that some way some how, you will be able to pay the bank for using the credit card. Once its accumulated, the outstanding is a never ending process. I have been in nightmares all the while to pay for the credit card. And lucky thing that I only own one credit card.
When buying the house and the car, its always taken for granted that we can pay them back through installments. The banks are actually earning our money.
Its ok to buy a bigger house. Most important thing is that we should try to get as much down payment as posible so that the interest will be low.
As for cars, the smaller it is the better it will be. I really regret to buy the naza ria. Initially I thought it will be in good use for me to travel with family. But after thinking of the petrol that I have to spend the car is really a waste.
Worst of all, my monthly installments for the car and house will come to about $3500 and this did not include other expenses. This also mean that monthly I must earn more that this amount. I am really pressured by the amount that I have to pay for the installments. From time to time, I really regret to buy the naza ria and really wish that I have bought a small and simple car instead.
So, its important that we should know how to save. The money that we save, will be good when we are in need for emergency or investments.
As for the relationships, I was a failure too cos I am a divorcee. I had lots of problems with my first marriage. I find it very difficult to adapt to a new environment and new family life. As such, we quarrelled most of the time which ended in lots of family feud and divorce.
We were brought up in different family and different situation. As a man, I used to demand my wife to have the qualities of my mother. The way my mother took care of dad and the children. I failed to understand that my life partner grew up in a different family and different environment totally. So, naturally I will demand my wife to be like my mum.
Due to these mistakes, after reading books, I realised books have great influence in my life. So, in my next blog I will explain which are the important books which influence my life.
1) How we can manage our financial
2) Relationships In the Family
So here, I would like to share my opinion on both topics.
The first one, how we can manage our financial. Since schooling, we are always told by the elders that we must know how to save. But then its just in and out of the ears only cos we are only kids at that time.
Well, how many parents actually do encourage their kids to save money? When I was in primary and secondary, my pocket money for food is given daily by my parents. Basically, I will finish all the money for food. Because dad operates a sundry shop, I am never short of any thing. When I need to replenish any thing for my stationery, etc. I just take it from the shop. In short, I never know and learn about money and how hard it is to earn money.
Only when I am out in the working world only I realised how important it is to learn how to save.
Even when I am at working field, no matter how much I earned, I still find it hard to save money. Mostly I will over spend my money and thats the reason why I have terrible debts with the credit card.
Always remember, credit card is only for convenience. Never take for granted that some way some how, you will be able to pay the bank for using the credit card. Once its accumulated, the outstanding is a never ending process. I have been in nightmares all the while to pay for the credit card. And lucky thing that I only own one credit card.
When buying the house and the car, its always taken for granted that we can pay them back through installments. The banks are actually earning our money.
Its ok to buy a bigger house. Most important thing is that we should try to get as much down payment as posible so that the interest will be low.
As for cars, the smaller it is the better it will be. I really regret to buy the naza ria. Initially I thought it will be in good use for me to travel with family. But after thinking of the petrol that I have to spend the car is really a waste.
Worst of all, my monthly installments for the car and house will come to about $3500 and this did not include other expenses. This also mean that monthly I must earn more that this amount. I am really pressured by the amount that I have to pay for the installments. From time to time, I really regret to buy the naza ria and really wish that I have bought a small and simple car instead.
So, its important that we should know how to save. The money that we save, will be good when we are in need for emergency or investments.
As for the relationships, I was a failure too cos I am a divorcee. I had lots of problems with my first marriage. I find it very difficult to adapt to a new environment and new family life. As such, we quarrelled most of the time which ended in lots of family feud and divorce.
We were brought up in different family and different situation. As a man, I used to demand my wife to have the qualities of my mother. The way my mother took care of dad and the children. I failed to understand that my life partner grew up in a different family and different environment totally. So, naturally I will demand my wife to be like my mum.
Due to these mistakes, after reading books, I realised books have great influence in my life. So, in my next blog I will explain which are the important books which influence my life.
Friday, June 27, 2008
Greediness...I Hate Most...
Ever since small, parents have taught me not to be greedy. From time to time they will always tell and remind me that we should not take things from other people which are rightly not ours.
As a tour guide, I am also bound with bribes from time to time. Most of the time when I am at the North South Highways, those stall owners will not want my money for the fruits or drink. And when I am at Ah Gu's fruits stall, he will sure to offer me fruits most of time.
Its really heartache to see the drivers and tour guides to abuse this little advantage that they have. No matter how, I will not fall in the trap of greed. Recently Gu's wife visited me at Genting Highlands and she gave me an angpau which has RM600. I intend to return to her through her daughter by wrapping it up and tell her daughter the envelope is for her mom. Its been 2 to 3 years, Gu gave me angpau during CNY which contains about RM500. I have always return the money to him. Its really pity to see him working so hard. How much can he earn from the fruits? So, I will never take any money from him.
From time to time, Gu also always offered me durians or any other fruits. If at any time I do take any fruits from him, I always insist that he must take my money for at least the cost of the fruits.
Recently, I am very very angry with the greediness of the people around me. One of my Indian guests, Mr. Nagpal lost 4 of his luggages. He willing pays RM1000 for the rental of the van to take him to Genting and KL.
During this trip I encountered 2 really bad incidents which really see the ugliness of human beings. The first one was the policeman at the Genting skyway. Met me for only 5 mins and he demanded money from me. Giving me all kinds of excuses for how tired he is just to arrange to call up the manager of the store.
The second and the worst is the van driver. When we (myself and Sam Chua) know that the guests insist on going to Genting to look for the luggages, Sam immediately suggested Mr. Wong. Mr Wong is the van driver and owner of the van. We were thinking its good to let Wong to earn more money instead of the guest getting a taxi from outside.
When Sam called up Wong about the trip to Genting and asked him on how much his charges for the rental of the van. Wong said RM700. Myself and Sam were saying he can charge more because its already late night and furthermore it will be in the morning by the time we reach back to PD. But Wong said RM700 is enough and agreed.
After making the police report, the guest insist on going to Resort hotel and Dorsett hotel. Wong immediately got angry and was grumbling and making a fuss out of it. He said he agreed with Sam that he will drive the guest to Skyway and make a police report only and not to Resort and Dorsett hotel.
I was very angry because when Sam was dealing with Wong I was by Sam's side. I know what is the whole deal like. We felt that we will give RM800 and we share it out the remainder RM200. Wong was grumbling and angry and said if he knew that he has to drive here and there, he would have demanded more. I was angry because he is the one who agreed to do the job but later on grumbling on not paid enough. Later I told Wong that we infact will give him RM800. Upon knowing this, he immediately keep quiet.
I am really very angry with Wong because he didnt pity to the Indian guest and wanted to take advantage of him. From this lesson, its good also to happen in this way because I learnt my lesson well in order to know the true colour of Wong.
When I was back to the hotel and I told him about the bad incidents between me and Wong. He agreed with me that we are actually trying to help Wong hoping that he will earn more money but never reallised that he is so calculative and greedy. From here, we tell each other, should we in need of help we will never let him earn any more money.
LESSON LEARNT: If we are greedy and calculative, people will definitely afraid of us and will not let us have any more chance to earn more money. Greediness will chase away friends.
As a tour guide, I am also bound with bribes from time to time. Most of the time when I am at the North South Highways, those stall owners will not want my money for the fruits or drink. And when I am at Ah Gu's fruits stall, he will sure to offer me fruits most of time.
Its really heartache to see the drivers and tour guides to abuse this little advantage that they have. No matter how, I will not fall in the trap of greed. Recently Gu's wife visited me at Genting Highlands and she gave me an angpau which has RM600. I intend to return to her through her daughter by wrapping it up and tell her daughter the envelope is for her mom. Its been 2 to 3 years, Gu gave me angpau during CNY which contains about RM500. I have always return the money to him. Its really pity to see him working so hard. How much can he earn from the fruits? So, I will never take any money from him.
From time to time, Gu also always offered me durians or any other fruits. If at any time I do take any fruits from him, I always insist that he must take my money for at least the cost of the fruits.
Recently, I am very very angry with the greediness of the people around me. One of my Indian guests, Mr. Nagpal lost 4 of his luggages. He willing pays RM1000 for the rental of the van to take him to Genting and KL.
During this trip I encountered 2 really bad incidents which really see the ugliness of human beings. The first one was the policeman at the Genting skyway. Met me for only 5 mins and he demanded money from me. Giving me all kinds of excuses for how tired he is just to arrange to call up the manager of the store.
The second and the worst is the van driver. When we (myself and Sam Chua) know that the guests insist on going to Genting to look for the luggages, Sam immediately suggested Mr. Wong. Mr Wong is the van driver and owner of the van. We were thinking its good to let Wong to earn more money instead of the guest getting a taxi from outside.
When Sam called up Wong about the trip to Genting and asked him on how much his charges for the rental of the van. Wong said RM700. Myself and Sam were saying he can charge more because its already late night and furthermore it will be in the morning by the time we reach back to PD. But Wong said RM700 is enough and agreed.
After making the police report, the guest insist on going to Resort hotel and Dorsett hotel. Wong immediately got angry and was grumbling and making a fuss out of it. He said he agreed with Sam that he will drive the guest to Skyway and make a police report only and not to Resort and Dorsett hotel.
I was very angry because when Sam was dealing with Wong I was by Sam's side. I know what is the whole deal like. We felt that we will give RM800 and we share it out the remainder RM200. Wong was grumbling and angry and said if he knew that he has to drive here and there, he would have demanded more. I was angry because he is the one who agreed to do the job but later on grumbling on not paid enough. Later I told Wong that we infact will give him RM800. Upon knowing this, he immediately keep quiet.
I am really very angry with Wong because he didnt pity to the Indian guest and wanted to take advantage of him. From this lesson, its good also to happen in this way because I learnt my lesson well in order to know the true colour of Wong.
When I was back to the hotel and I told him about the bad incidents between me and Wong. He agreed with me that we are actually trying to help Wong hoping that he will earn more money but never reallised that he is so calculative and greedy. From here, we tell each other, should we in need of help we will never let him earn any more money.
LESSON LEARNT: If we are greedy and calculative, people will definitely afraid of us and will not let us have any more chance to earn more money. Greediness will chase away friends.
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Learning Languages
As I am now taking the Indian group, I really felt the importance of languages.
When I was a kid, parents used to send me for tuition classes. I started to attend tuition classes ever since I was in standard 3 till when I am in form 5. Most of these tuitions are mainly on improving my english, bahasa and mathematics.
I remembered most among my tuition teachers are Mr. Kasi, Ms Devi and Mr. Tan. Mr Kasi was my std 5 class teacher and also my tuition teacher. He is very, very strict in class. If we have more than 2 mistakes for maths then we will be caned on our hand.
Ms. Devi is someone who I must really thanked for. Until now I do not know where she is now. Wherever she is, I wish her all the best. She taught me the english language. At that time I was in Form 2. That is the time when I started to mix around and socialise. I was mixing with two groups for friends at that time.
One is my own classmates. With these classmates, not much of harm done except that at very young age already wanted to know more female friends and was hoping to have a girlfriend as well.
As for the other group, I mixed with my cousin, Kee and his friends. Kee and his friends all all so much more elder than me. My mother really worried that I like to mix with this group. Initially, I do not know why mom really against me mixing with Kee. Kee and his friends at the end turned up to be drug addicts and Kee was even prisoned twice. It is very fortunate that mom talk to Ms. Devi about this problem. One day, after the tuition class, Ms Devi asked me to stay behind and talk to me. She made me realise how important for me to have my parents trusts and how much my parents loved and worried for me for mixing with the wrong parties. She really made me realised and from that time onwards, I dont mix with Kee and his friends anymore and I started to earn trust from my parents. I really owe Ms Devi for this favour or else I could have been a drug addict.
Lesson Learnt: It is very important we know well the people that we mixed with. At the teenager age, it is well known as the rebellion age. Its lucky that Ms Devi made me open up my eyes and turn a new leaf.
Mr Tan was my Form 4 and 5 maths teacher. After form 5, he was also the one who made me got interested with computer. He was the one who taught me the basic programing. He is a very serious teacher and learned a lot from him too.
When I was in Form 6, parents sent me for english tuition with another Mr. Tan but then he is too boring. Learn nothing much from him.
It was very lucky that when small, parents nurtured me with what ever education which they feel suitable for me. They always encourage me to study well and improve on languages. I was lucky that in a way I was born a linguist as well. I catch up languages easily.
My only regret is that during school days I never took up the Mandarin classes seriously. If only I am willing to learn Chinese, then for sure I am going to be a better tour guide. I really feel handicapped since I dont read or write Chinese. But still I am very lucky that I can speak Mandarin very well and I can be a China tour guide to earn a living.
Lesson Learnt: Always learn as many languages as possible. They will be the most useful tool for communications. Any professions will require good command of languages. Once a person who is good in languages, he/she will automatically master whatever courses, job skills, etc easily. The most important language is English. Then its the Mandarin. And if one can learn about French of course it is so much better.
When I was a kid, parents used to send me for tuition classes. I started to attend tuition classes ever since I was in standard 3 till when I am in form 5. Most of these tuitions are mainly on improving my english, bahasa and mathematics.
I remembered most among my tuition teachers are Mr. Kasi, Ms Devi and Mr. Tan. Mr Kasi was my std 5 class teacher and also my tuition teacher. He is very, very strict in class. If we have more than 2 mistakes for maths then we will be caned on our hand.
Ms. Devi is someone who I must really thanked for. Until now I do not know where she is now. Wherever she is, I wish her all the best. She taught me the english language. At that time I was in Form 2. That is the time when I started to mix around and socialise. I was mixing with two groups for friends at that time.
One is my own classmates. With these classmates, not much of harm done except that at very young age already wanted to know more female friends and was hoping to have a girlfriend as well.
As for the other group, I mixed with my cousin, Kee and his friends. Kee and his friends all all so much more elder than me. My mother really worried that I like to mix with this group. Initially, I do not know why mom really against me mixing with Kee. Kee and his friends at the end turned up to be drug addicts and Kee was even prisoned twice. It is very fortunate that mom talk to Ms. Devi about this problem. One day, after the tuition class, Ms Devi asked me to stay behind and talk to me. She made me realise how important for me to have my parents trusts and how much my parents loved and worried for me for mixing with the wrong parties. She really made me realised and from that time onwards, I dont mix with Kee and his friends anymore and I started to earn trust from my parents. I really owe Ms Devi for this favour or else I could have been a drug addict.
Lesson Learnt: It is very important we know well the people that we mixed with. At the teenager age, it is well known as the rebellion age. Its lucky that Ms Devi made me open up my eyes and turn a new leaf.
Mr Tan was my Form 4 and 5 maths teacher. After form 5, he was also the one who made me got interested with computer. He was the one who taught me the basic programing. He is a very serious teacher and learned a lot from him too.
When I was in Form 6, parents sent me for english tuition with another Mr. Tan but then he is too boring. Learn nothing much from him.
It was very lucky that when small, parents nurtured me with what ever education which they feel suitable for me. They always encourage me to study well and improve on languages. I was lucky that in a way I was born a linguist as well. I catch up languages easily.
My only regret is that during school days I never took up the Mandarin classes seriously. If only I am willing to learn Chinese, then for sure I am going to be a better tour guide. I really feel handicapped since I dont read or write Chinese. But still I am very lucky that I can speak Mandarin very well and I can be a China tour guide to earn a living.
Lesson Learnt: Always learn as many languages as possible. They will be the most useful tool for communications. Any professions will require good command of languages. Once a person who is good in languages, he/she will automatically master whatever courses, job skills, etc easily. The most important language is English. Then its the Mandarin. And if one can learn about French of course it is so much better.
Sunday, June 15, 2008
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY
Today is Father's Day... Never in my life been celebrating father's day with dad...
Deep in my heart, I have always been feeling very guilty and always feel that I never did enough for dad for what he has sacrificed for the family so far... But dad never complain...
Infact dad is actually someone whom I admired very, very much. He has lots of qualities which I really hope I can inherit from him...
One thing for sure...Dad is surely one of the most industrious person on earth that I ever known. He really worked hard for money and never ever once complain to us. He was a sundry shopkeeper. When he was running the sundry shop, within a year, he has only 4 off days which is during the Chinese New Year. He even work on Sundays. He earned hard money to support my education and the whole family. He worked from 7am to 11pm everyday.
Dad is surely someone who earned every single cents he could. I still remember when I was at secondary school I have to help out at the shop. One day, there was a customer ordering half scraped coconut and to be sent to her house. Her house is located about 5km away from the shop. Dad asked me to send the coconut to her house. I was very angry saying that its only half a coconut and the house is so far away yet still have to send it. Dad insisted on it saying that if we wanted to keep customers, we must provide good service to customers. At that time, no one in the family can drive a car or ride a motorcycle. We send the goods no matter how far by bicycle.
Can you imagine half a coconut only cost 25cents and how much my dad can earn out of it? Every evening, I also have to send bread to the customers. At that time, a loaf of sunshine bread costs only 50cents. But as a service to customers, I have to send it.
I still remember when at night, dad loves to watch football or badminton matches. And everytime he watches the matches, he will surely fall asleep while sitting on the sofa. We will be giggling and laughing at dad. We were small then and do not understand how tired dad must be.
During the afternoon, if dad can have a short nap, it will be a big pleasure for him.
Dad studied Chinese school right up to standard six only. He has to work at very young age because he has to help out to support the family. Dad is the eldest male in the family. He really gave me a good example as how he took care of his family. Till this very day, he will constantly make phone calls to his sisters and brothers. And whenever he has the chance he will pay a visit to them. Should there be any big ceremony for the family member, he is sure to make a point to be there.
Dad's best policy is honesty. He always believe that we have to be responsible and reliable all the time. So, whenever dad is in bad financial position, he can easily get a loan from his friends or family member.
Even though dad studied only to standard six, he knows the importance of education. Thats the reason why he always encourages us to study hard.
When I was in Ipoh, my bakery business was doing very well. I asked dad to give up his business and come to help me out. He has to open invoices and give stocks to the customers. He is willing to give up his own business just to help me out at the bakery. He really sacrificed so much for me.
When he gave up his business in Melaka, most of his customers and friends really missed him. There are full of praises for my parents. They made many friends and are always very good to the neighbours. One of his customers told me, since dad shifted away, they can never enjoy a better service than anyone.
Leong (brother) and I insisted that parents should retire. Since 2 years ago, they have shifted to stay with Leong. Even so, whenever big festival is going on, dad still travel all the way to Butterworth to help Eng (sister).
I always feel heartache each time I met up with dad. He looks older and older. But I always feel lucky that dad is as healthy as ever. He really takes care of his health. Everyday 6am, he will go for morning walk. He has been doing this since he was 40.
Dad... I wish that you can live as long posible. You are definitely the best dad in the world...
DAD... I LOVE YOU...
Deep in my heart, I have always been feeling very guilty and always feel that I never did enough for dad for what he has sacrificed for the family so far... But dad never complain...
Infact dad is actually someone whom I admired very, very much. He has lots of qualities which I really hope I can inherit from him...
One thing for sure...Dad is surely one of the most industrious person on earth that I ever known. He really worked hard for money and never ever once complain to us. He was a sundry shopkeeper. When he was running the sundry shop, within a year, he has only 4 off days which is during the Chinese New Year. He even work on Sundays. He earned hard money to support my education and the whole family. He worked from 7am to 11pm everyday.
Dad is surely someone who earned every single cents he could. I still remember when I was at secondary school I have to help out at the shop. One day, there was a customer ordering half scraped coconut and to be sent to her house. Her house is located about 5km away from the shop. Dad asked me to send the coconut to her house. I was very angry saying that its only half a coconut and the house is so far away yet still have to send it. Dad insisted on it saying that if we wanted to keep customers, we must provide good service to customers. At that time, no one in the family can drive a car or ride a motorcycle. We send the goods no matter how far by bicycle.
Can you imagine half a coconut only cost 25cents and how much my dad can earn out of it? Every evening, I also have to send bread to the customers. At that time, a loaf of sunshine bread costs only 50cents. But as a service to customers, I have to send it.
I still remember when at night, dad loves to watch football or badminton matches. And everytime he watches the matches, he will surely fall asleep while sitting on the sofa. We will be giggling and laughing at dad. We were small then and do not understand how tired dad must be.
During the afternoon, if dad can have a short nap, it will be a big pleasure for him.
Dad studied Chinese school right up to standard six only. He has to work at very young age because he has to help out to support the family. Dad is the eldest male in the family. He really gave me a good example as how he took care of his family. Till this very day, he will constantly make phone calls to his sisters and brothers. And whenever he has the chance he will pay a visit to them. Should there be any big ceremony for the family member, he is sure to make a point to be there.
Dad's best policy is honesty. He always believe that we have to be responsible and reliable all the time. So, whenever dad is in bad financial position, he can easily get a loan from his friends or family member.
Even though dad studied only to standard six, he knows the importance of education. Thats the reason why he always encourages us to study hard.
When I was in Ipoh, my bakery business was doing very well. I asked dad to give up his business and come to help me out. He has to open invoices and give stocks to the customers. He is willing to give up his own business just to help me out at the bakery. He really sacrificed so much for me.
When he gave up his business in Melaka, most of his customers and friends really missed him. There are full of praises for my parents. They made many friends and are always very good to the neighbours. One of his customers told me, since dad shifted away, they can never enjoy a better service than anyone.
Leong (brother) and I insisted that parents should retire. Since 2 years ago, they have shifted to stay with Leong. Even so, whenever big festival is going on, dad still travel all the way to Butterworth to help Eng (sister).
I always feel heartache each time I met up with dad. He looks older and older. But I always feel lucky that dad is as healthy as ever. He really takes care of his health. Everyday 6am, he will go for morning walk. He has been doing this since he was 40.
Dad... I wish that you can live as long posible. You are definitely the best dad in the world...
DAD... I LOVE YOU...
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Met With Daddy
Woke up at about 11something. Then immediately get ready to go to Subang to see dad. While on the way there bought the San Kee roast duck for dad n family. Then went to the ss19 to eat the mi hun kuih. (Joanne's favourite). Waited for about an hour just for this mi hun kuih.
Reach Leong house at about 2pm. Chit chatting with dad and mom...
At 4.30pm left. Went to Mid-Vally for shopping and movie. We watch the Panda Kungfu. A very funny movie. Too bad that we watch the cantonese version. Intend to buy the english version so that BB Chua can watch it as well.
We had our dinner at a nearby hawker centre 118. Reach home at about 11.30pm.
Today Joanne told me a marriage is like a gamble. She told me when we were shopping at Mid Valley, she saw an Indian family. In her past experiences and encounters, most Indians have very bad family relationship due to the males who are drunkards. I told her don't have such a racial thinking... but in a way its true. I told Joanne I definitely agree with her. After all I have lost my gamble before but I won this time for having this family.
When at Leong house mom told me, Mok's (bro-in-lw) nephew, at only 16yrs old already started to sell ICE. Mom told me its really not easy to look after kids. So, we must always becareful with our kids all the time.
While on the way back home after dinner, I told Joanne that Damai Perdana is already a township. All the while, she was saying this place is really a deserted place. (Even birds don't lay eggs here) But I told her, she has been staying here for more than 5 years liao.
Coming to think of it, actually my relationship with Joanne is all fated and pre-destined. When I saw Joaane last time, I did say in my heart... OOOH how nice if I can get this gal as my gf or wife. But I don't have confidence of getting a gf cos of my past reputation in the tour guides circle.
Then one night so coincidence, we were drinking in the casino... then proceeded to the disco STUDIO 98 in Genting Highlands. I was also there with my tour leader friend Linda. There itself when I get to know Joanne, I told Linda confidently that I am going to chase after this gal and made her my wife. At the disco itself, I got hold of Joanne's hp no and from there onwards I have been projecting on her.
Life is really predestined that we are together. Continuously a few groups while guiding, coincidentally she is also guiding. So, I took this opportunity to get to know her better and getting closer to her.
Finally, a night when we were guiding and staying in Melaka, this is the first time I made love to Joanne. From here onwards, I knew I have won her heart.
Just like what I have said all the while, even god is helping me to be with Joanne. While courting with Joanne (after about 2-3 mth), suddenly Joanne's landlord wanted back the house. So, immediately I offer her to shift over to stay with me. Initially she is quite reluctant... but with my persuasive technique, I finally manage to persuade her to stay with me...
Lesson Learnt: In love life, we must learn how to fight for ourselves. Just like my relationship with Joanne, because I have the confidence and really fight all the way... finally I won the heart of Joanne.
Reach Leong house at about 2pm. Chit chatting with dad and mom...
At 4.30pm left. Went to Mid-Vally for shopping and movie. We watch the Panda Kungfu. A very funny movie. Too bad that we watch the cantonese version. Intend to buy the english version so that BB Chua can watch it as well.
We had our dinner at a nearby hawker centre 118. Reach home at about 11.30pm.
Today Joanne told me a marriage is like a gamble. She told me when we were shopping at Mid Valley, she saw an Indian family. In her past experiences and encounters, most Indians have very bad family relationship due to the males who are drunkards. I told her don't have such a racial thinking... but in a way its true. I told Joanne I definitely agree with her. After all I have lost my gamble before but I won this time for having this family.
When at Leong house mom told me, Mok's (bro-in-lw) nephew, at only 16yrs old already started to sell ICE. Mom told me its really not easy to look after kids. So, we must always becareful with our kids all the time.
While on the way back home after dinner, I told Joanne that Damai Perdana is already a township. All the while, she was saying this place is really a deserted place. (Even birds don't lay eggs here) But I told her, she has been staying here for more than 5 years liao.
Coming to think of it, actually my relationship with Joanne is all fated and pre-destined. When I saw Joaane last time, I did say in my heart... OOOH how nice if I can get this gal as my gf or wife. But I don't have confidence of getting a gf cos of my past reputation in the tour guides circle.
Then one night so coincidence, we were drinking in the casino... then proceeded to the disco STUDIO 98 in Genting Highlands. I was also there with my tour leader friend Linda. There itself when I get to know Joanne, I told Linda confidently that I am going to chase after this gal and made her my wife. At the disco itself, I got hold of Joanne's hp no and from there onwards I have been projecting on her.
Life is really predestined that we are together. Continuously a few groups while guiding, coincidentally she is also guiding. So, I took this opportunity to get to know her better and getting closer to her.
Finally, a night when we were guiding and staying in Melaka, this is the first time I made love to Joanne. From here onwards, I knew I have won her heart.
Just like what I have said all the while, even god is helping me to be with Joanne. While courting with Joanne (after about 2-3 mth), suddenly Joanne's landlord wanted back the house. So, immediately I offer her to shift over to stay with me. Initially she is quite reluctant... but with my persuasive technique, I finally manage to persuade her to stay with me...
Lesson Learnt: In love life, we must learn how to fight for ourselves. Just like my relationship with Joanne, because I have the confidence and really fight all the way... finally I won the heart of Joanne.
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